Hi, mom has bone cancer ( secondary breast) tumor markers low thanks to chemo, she also had 3 tiny brain tumors which were treated with cyberknife into hospital Wednesday as she suddenly had confusion and crippling back pain with suspended spinal compression. Scan revealed no such thing. Deep down I couldn't help thinking about the slight confusion and brain tumors she had so requested a brain scan. Doctor's refusing at first saying it's not related, I persevered and got one which shockingly revealed 30 new tumours. Needless to say my.mom and whole family is shocked. My mom was told this news by the ward doctor and then left on her own. She was discharged and offered no support. I was told after hours of trying to get through to someone that there is little they can do and that my.mlm has weeks or months at best to live. I cannot believe that the doctor's were so harsh. They said covid patients are getting priority and I felt like they'd given up on my.mom. I get that the cancer is incurable but feel.utterly let down by the lack of support. I managed to get through to the doctor today and asked for radiotherapy which he has agreed too but doesn't sound hopeful. I'm hoping it will by my.mom some time but I'm struggling to come to terms with this so I can't imagine what it's like for my beautiful mom. I feel angry and helpless. The radiotherapy consultation isn't for 7-10 days, time is of the essence and I feel the injustice of it all. I lost my dad to a brain tumors some years ago and I cannot believe this is happening again.
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm really sorry to read that your mum's breast cancer has spread and that she's been told that it's now incurable.
It's not surprising that you are struggling to come to terms with this and the emotions you are feeling are perfectly normal. I haven't been in the same situation as you, as I was the one with cancer, but I didn't want you to think that no one had seen your post.
If you haven't seen it then you might find this information produced by Macmillan on supporting someone with cancer useful. I'm not sure from what you've said if you are your mum's carer but, if so, then you could maybe take a look through this advice on practical support when you look after someone. It gives you information on the different types of help that are available to you as a carer, including getting help from health care professionals and also from social services.
There is a lot of help out there and you can always give the Macmillan Support Line a call on 0808 808 0000 to ask their advice. It's free to call and they're available every day of the week between 8am and 8pm.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
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