Living Alone with Cancer

I live alone and would appreciate such a group - was diagnosed with prostate cancer last Dec. While the prostate cancer group i s very useful people living alone have some different problems to those living with a family or partner. Thanks

I live alone and have just been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer , my mother and brother both live over 80 miles away so my friends have been really helpful but sometimes they can be a bit overpowering . Not sure if that's just because my head is all over the place .

I feel a bit awkward at times because people keep saying I look fine and haven't lost any weight but in my head I feel like shouting at them .

Thankyou to all 20 people who have replied so far.

is there anyone else out there who would be interested in a new group?

Hi,

I think this is an excellent idea.  I found myself living alone with cancer as my partner couldn't cope with my diagnosis and excused himself from the situation.

An added problem - if it could be called that - is that I have always been very strong and independent and asking others for help has been hard.  I have been pleasantly surprised how helpful people have been and how much this site has helped.

I had my operation last week and came home from hospital yesterday. Without my daughter running herself ragged - new full time job, baby and living over 20 miles away from me - my stay and operation would have been much harder.  Having a special someone to take you to and from hospital and be there in the difficult post-op period is something most would wish for and would relieve a lot of stress. 

I am aware my position is so much better than many on here and my heart goes out to them. 

Regards,

Val 

Hi Lynda

i lost my husband on 5 th jan and learn that my cancer is back in feb have three grown up children so live alone a lot of the time so I could both contribute and benifit from this sort of group .

    Yvonne x

I live alone and would be willing to give this a try.

, I feel like my quality of life has changed so much since I went through my breast cancer treatment, even though I am in remission.

It would be interesting to find out if others have been affected in a similar way, and if living alone has anything to do with it, or if this is a common problem whatever your domestic situation.

Good question quasie, I wonder if living alone has an impact on how the body and mind deals with the desease.

Regards,  Nicholas

This group would really help me as although I have lots of very good friends who will do any thing to help me it's when I get home and have to sit there by myself that my mind starts worrying about things .

Just had my operation postponed so sitting here typing this out knowing that there are other people out there sitting alone with the same sort of problems stops me feeling so lonely , still feel fed up and down in the dumps but don't feel alone

Hi,

it is so horrible when we get all psyched up for these things, plus arrangements made, then they get changed. Did they give you a new date to plan for?

Not given me a new operation date yet but hospital has rang me and sent a letter with an appointment to see a different surgeon on the 31st of march , hope he is not going to tell me about the surgery but give me an actual day .