Reality check take 2

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My OH went back to work on Mon, a week later than planned but we certainly needed that extra week.

My sister was here all day yesterday, we had a jaunt out & I persuaded her to go home & let me have an hour on my own.

I decided to try propelling myself in the light weight wheelchair because my legs had completely given up. 
Mission accomplished, I launched myself out of the chair, whacked my head & elbow, right leg buckled underneath me & chair on top.

Couldn’t  get up but got a bit more comfortable & that’s where my OH found me. I had my phone & knew he’d be home very soon so 20 mins later, but in floods of tears & very, very shocked. Morphine & an early night helped, but still feel a bit shocked, battered & bruised. I’ve discovered that part of being independent is knowing your limitations.

What was I thinking of???? Luckily OH was very understanding. Have had a really quiet day with our youngest son who’s been working from here all day Blush xxx

  • Hi Norb, Yes I could watch someone work for hours and feel quite proud of the fact I WAS THERE! It can become exhausting, so pace yourself! Lol!

    Love Annette x

    Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery, Today is a Gift!!!
  • Good morning everyone

    Oh yes, the gentle pastime of work watching. I couldn't count the number of times I have driven by someone digging a hole and being so jealous. Why so jealous? Well, that's because the fella digging always has 2 mates watching him and I want to be there too!

    However, my wife is never keen on me watching her gardening. Yesterday she threatened to leave the greenhouse and transplant her cosmos seedlings elsewhere. Oh dear, I would have been able to enjoy looking at my own seedlings in my own greenhouse. Dear dear, life is so harsh lol

    Tvman xx

    Ps I don't know what I have said that has caused the "Are you in danger?" message. Can anyone work out what I have said to trigger the message that I may be in danger? Possibly "threatened"?

    Love life and family.
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to anndanv

    wonder what would happen if we put our 2 friends together.... It does help knowing that you have the same problem. My sister says the endless fussing is really for her own benefit and it also helps to think of it that way. BF has already booked trips out for the next 2 Thursdays, and I've already asked her to cancel one of the days because we have plans for someones birthday. xx

  • Perhaps the word threatened and digging triggered it off.

    pit is ridicuhow some words trigger messages. I had it when I used the word death once. It is silly not to be able to use certain words 

    Ruth 

  • It just popped up again ha ha 

    Ruth 

  • It just popped up again ha ha 

    Ruth 

  • I had a zoom meeting yesterday with acc type of cancer patients.

    I learned the results of the latest trial of the targeted drug I am on  showed it does not reduce growth in metastases.it leaves me no other options 

    I think I will stop the drug after my next scans in May if it still shows growth.

    I was awake last  night thinking about it .

    I read on here that if you stop treatment your oncologist hands you over to palliative care and doesn’t see you any more. That ,makes me sad after 10 years. I have never met the palliative care consultant just talks over the phone 

    Ruth 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to ruthjp

    I am very sorry to hear your news Ruth.  I am sure one of our friends on here will know how things like this work.

    You know, time gives us hope than things can turn up. Xx

  • Hi Ruth 

    So sorry to read about your latest news, just the type of news you don't want especially when it interrupts your sleep pattern. 

    A consultant I had for 6 years left to go to another hospital in Belfast. He had become a friend as well as a consultant. He took his children to see my entries in a gardening show and talked about his hobby of making iron figures from his foundry. He also used to show me his holiday photos of strange fruits and vegetables in Malaysia where his wife hailed from. It was like losing my right arm, sometimes I used to see him every week. 

    If the drug you're on isn't stopping growth then probably best to stop taking it but of course you need to talk to your consultant first. 

    Good luck Ruth, and you cut a fine figure in your Mother of the Bride outfit, very impressive Smiley

    Tvman xx

    Love life and family.
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to ruthjp

    Does it slow growth or just do nothing?  I’m sorry you are going through this Ruth- we like to keep to a routine and change is hard xx