Nobody to talk to

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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I was on this website about 3 years ago, I have bowel,liver metastases and now lung metastases. I find now that I have no one to share my feelings as they all think I am invincible. All everyone says is to keep positive but at this moment in time I don’t feel it.

My consultant told me on Monday that I need a break from chemo as it is taking its toll on my body.

I want to make plans with my family for the end but I feel as though I am being selfish as I know no one wants to talk about this.

Sorry for being morbid.

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Dear

thank you so much for your kind words, I really needed them today, and you’ve put me back on the right track.

i had my weekly visit to the hospice today, where I also had an appointment with one of the palliative care doctors about my pain control.She was fantastic and very knowledgeable and we came up with a plan to make me more comfortable which I was very happy with and left with a little spring in my step.

i agree with everyone regards making arrangements, make a priority list then work through it at your own pace. It can be a emotional process so it’s good to leave gaps between each things.

my basic list which I completed some time ago was as follows.

advanced care plan

lasting power of attorney (given to my husband)

research funeral options .

make a will

DNR which is personal choice only and not applicable to everyone.

get yourself on the radar of local palliative care services via your gp.

talk to your nearest and dearest about the plans you have made, probably the hardest bit.

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