Treatment done , why am I not happier !

Hi Anna m welcome to the forum..I'm glad that people have been able to reassure you that how you are feeling and what you are feeling is perfectly normal. I wonder if you felt able to, if you haven't already, read a paper by a psychologist named Dr Peter Harvey entitled "After the Treatment finishes"-"what next". It is really good and and will explain all that you are feeling . Xxxx

Hi Anna m and a second welcome to this little corner of the community.

Do make a cuppa and have a look at this great paper After Treatment Finishes - Then What? by Dr Peter Harvey that my friend Gail GRANNY59 has highlighted.

As it highlights the post treatment milestones that need to be navigated.

Welcome from me. Had my last chemo 16 cycles over 2 months ish last Friday. I was overwhelmed by it all full of emotion this time last week!! Felt weird that I didn't have to go in every Wednesday for line care and blood  tests. We get into such a routine!! 

I too don't misd the treatment days, the cold cap nightmares. Next Friday ive had to plan not to be in the house or anywhere near a hospital so I cam try to move on well for a short while anyway as late January will start 15 days of radiotherapy!! 

Take care x 

Thankyou for taking the time to reply , really appreciate it and I will definitely look at the paper you recommended, sending love ️ x

Thanks for sharing, sometimes the hardest part of this journey is just feeling like someone understands, so I really wish you well with your future treatment, and always here if you need a chat , god luck my lovely ️x

That's what I'm starting to see, i feel so down and alone and like I should be feeling happy now treatments all done and I've got the all clear, but I feel so depressed and anxious and cry all the time, I'm getting on my own nerves lol, I don't have any friends and my family just think it's all over and done with now, my husband has never been supportive and barely talks to me.

But coming on here has made me realise I'm not the only one feeling like this, in fact it looks like it's common. So big hugs to everyone else feeling like this. Xxx

Hi Stacey,Sorry you are feeling down and alone.I think it’s quite common to feel like this after treatment.I went through a very low time after surgery when the realisation of what I had been through hit.It all gets a bit too much and all your emotions come out and you don’t understand why you are not happy you have got the all clear.It’s like bereavement in some ways.I didn’t feel motivated and cried a lot which I never did when diagnosed.You are certainly not alone in feeling like this.I found writing down how I felt helped.I also used to write down 3 small things/jobs I wanted to achieve each day to help to get back some motivation,I spent a lot of time outside as nature helped.I’m so sorry your husband is not supportive that must make it especially hard.Do you have a good gp you could talk to or perhaps phone Macmillan.I found them helpful when my mum died.It’s a stage of adjusting to how you are now and things should get better.Love Jane x

Thank you Jane for your kind message, it means a lot, and so helpful to know its not unusual to be feeling this way. I like your idea of writing things down and to do 3 things a day, I'm going to do that as I've been feeling overwhelmed and then not doing anything,  so this way at least i can feel like I've achieved something, brilliant idea. Thank you again for reaching out to me, love Stacey x

I love the three small things idea too. If you hadn't posted originally I wouldn't have heard of that so thank you! 

I've been using the Macmillan HOPE  programme which has helped me. It's free and online with no time schedule which I like. 

Hi Stacey.Sending a virtual hug.I’ve been trying to send you a private message but am having problems.Jane x