Hi all,
I lost my mum early March this year. I live with my dad and my little puppy, Fernando.
My dad doesn’t help me around the house or with Fernando. If Fernando has an “accident” in the house my dad calls me to clean it up as he tells me Fernando is my dog! Which is true but he doesn’t do any housework and I seem to be forever cleaning up and tidying up him and Fernando.
The other week my dad said he was using the grill and all I said as long as you clean up after you and he jump down my throat telling me that I can’t tell him what to do and all I ask is to clean up after him because that is all I seem to do. Then our next door neighbours have started thrown pots of chocolate and broken up pieces of plastic into our back garden to hurt Fernando. My dad told me to ignore it! I can’t ignore it. He excuse that we just want to live quietly! So do I but I want to live safely and they are sick people next door to try and hurt a puppy because they hate us but my dad won’t have it.
I don’t really get to enjoy Fernando because I am worn out and Fernando plays up and starts being destructive because I am always cleaning or tidying up.
My dad looked after Fernando when I was at the hairdressers. When I rang to see how they were Fernando was barking non stop and I told my dad to stop him and he said he can’t! Fernando does bark like that when I am at home. I worry because our next door neighbours don’t like us and I don’t want them complaining to the noise people. But dad doesn’t seem to care.
Them today I was on my hands and knees cleaning the kitchen floor and my dad was supposed to looking after Fernando. My dad went to answer the door and Fernando got out! Fortunately, Fernando ran back inside again. While I am annoyed at Fernando, I am furious with my dad as he is supposed to be responsible. I told my dad to be careful and I pointed out he is supposed to be responsible but he got nasty and told me not to worry.
He doesn’t help me to try and train Fernando and I find myself shouting at Fernando when he is being naughty for which I am ashamed off.
Okay, he lost his wife but I lost my mum which is hard but this is beyond and if I mention anything he makes out I am worrying and reminds me that I wanted Fernando.
Sorry to go one but I am at my wits end.
Lisa xxx
Sorry to hear this Lisa, it sounds like you are walking on eggshells most of the time.
I have no advise I can give that can make any difference but the very action of putting this down on print may help in some way to ‘let it all out’……. I just wanted to drop in past and send you a supportive ((hug))
Sorry to hear about the loss of your Mum and that you are having a hard time at the moment. No need to be sorry for putting it all down as Mike said you seem to be walking on eggshells most of the time. I hope putting this down has helped somewhat.
Take care.
Sending you a supportive hug.
Best wishes
Daisy53
