worried about my mom wanting to reverse her 2 bags colostomy and mucous fistula

no, im sorry i meant when i make the hole size for her stoma on the wafer its more of a oval shape ,so i have to push the stoma to lie flat on her belly ,then l put wafer on her and then the bag ,(i could put bag on even if it protrudes out though ) if it was more flush l think she would be happier shes a phyical person and she doesnt want to hit it when she lifts and works around the house ,l thought the same thing to ask doctor to do the loop colostomy only ,but l figured the waste would have to come out of the muscous fistula ,but that was something l wanted to ask even make it smaller,Unfortulaty the surgeon who did her original emergency operation ,isnt doing the surgery ,he feels his hospital to small and wants her at a bigger hospital and he feels this operation is out of his league ,so he gave us the next best doctor ,but the new doctors bed side manners are difficult to talk to ,so every time i ask something ,hes answers are short ,and my moms afraid hell get mad and drop her as a patient ,but everyone says if this operation can be done ,hes who you want ,im going to call his assitant l heard shes easy to talk to and could possible answer my concerns....l think my mom forgets how long it took her to heal last surgery ,grant it she was very sick before emergecy surgery and chemo in her system and malnourished ...its just so nice to see her driving around and taking her friends out and tryin to be her ole self ,but i know she doesnt feel complete ,l know shes scared of this surgery ,but trys to think of the good it may have ,l usually visit her after work ,and we are not so anal (no pun taken lol ) worrring if she strung a leak since her incision is healed ,right now l can do this and help her ,lm afraid she will have to be put in a nursing home and l wont be able to help her off the bed and such if this immobles her down the rode ,i dont know ,Thank you for listening to me ,in my heart l feel everything will be good,by you just always have that thought

Hi JoshA 

It’s definitely something to ask. Though would the whole point of reversing the stoma not be for waste to go the “normal way” and not into any kind of bag? 

It can be very unfortunate if a doctor doesn’t seem to have a very empathetic manner, but the main thing is his ability to do the surgery. But if you can ask questions of his assistant (if that person is a medical professional) then that could be helpful for you.

Remember too that they would not be considering these procedures unless your mum is considered  fit enough to get through them.

I’m sure it’s still a scary thought for her contemplating more surgery, but she’s really fortunate in having you to look after her so well.

Sarah xx

thank you, for the kind words ,praying for the best

Good Morning ,So good news my mom had her reversal on May 1st the doctor is taking it slow with her and not allowing her to eat or drink to let bowels rest and heal so it wont cause leakaged ,She has a tube in nose that is sucking stomach fluids out and once that stops they can take out tube in nose ,plus she has to pass gas as well which she hasnt ,yet ,her heart rate  has been a little high so they havent had her walking or getting up to go to the bathroom ,just she sat in chair one time ...Would you think this is normal for her to have not passed gas ,i dont know how to help her in doing that so she can get rid of tube in nose which she hates

Hi JoshA 

That’s good news that your mum has come through her op. I didn't have to have a naso gastric tube after my surgery so I don’t have any experience of them. It would be best to have a word with her doctor or the nurses looking after her to see what they say, but I’m sure she will be getting good care and they will be monitoring everything carefully. It does take time for things to settle after any surgery, so try not to worry.

Sarah xx

Hi Joshua 

Thars such good news that your Mom has had her operations and is recovering 

I didn’t have a tube I was offered food which was breakfast. My bowel and rectum hadn’t been used for thirteen months so it was all very strange experience. I passed wind later the second day it was a tiny made me laugh. 

Keep us updated 

Best wishes 

She ended up passing gas today and tube came out ,they were going to start clear liquids today ,so far she is doing good l asked nurses how long she might stay in hospital but they are not sure

haha ,mom said the same thing but its been 10 months for her ,shes nervous though once she does have her 1st bowel movement

It’s a really strange feeling. I was unable to pass wind for years anyway as I was almost blocked. The sensation gave me the giggles 

I know how she feels  about first bowel movement. Mine happened at home it’s very strange I thought of it as though I had a new rectum which was small on storage so I needed to be patient 

i didn’t have support in the hospital im not sure my ward knew how to handle it. When I asked for a dressing change they ran. Eventually a nurse came in and asked to see my wound. She looked at my back! 
Hopefully your mom sounds like she’s on a knowledgeable ward 

For her discharge when she gets home it’s a good idea to have some incontinence equipment. It’s not forever. It’s on waking up and getting to the toilet. I actually slept downstairs as the toilet was quick to get to and easily cleaned and I found the pads a much better as easy fast access. 

I had a food diary and went back to the types of food I had early with my stoma. So low fibre and little amounts. 

There’s a LARS group within this forum that has lots of tips.
So it’s definitely worth checking that out and pop any questions there when she’s home 

best wishes. 

yeah so far the nurses seem good ,not sure when she  wont be in such pain seems a little better though ,,thank you  though for responding every one on here is very helpful