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FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hi,
I'm also new to Share. I'm 16 and have recently found out that my grandma, who I am very close to, has no chance of recovering from cancer. I am currently sitting my GCSE's and my mum has told me it could be weeks or days until my grandma sadly passes away. Each day, she feels different, we have good days and bad days (my grandma). I am finding it hard to know how to deal with this, and how will I know when this is going to happen?
Also, without sounding selfish, i am worried about this affecting my exams as i know this is not what she would want to happen, or what i want to happen.
My grandma means so much to me and I am finding this very hard after an 18 month fight we have already had to face.
Thanks x

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hello **, so sorry you have had to be welcomed to this site, but pleased you have found it and hope you can find some support here. What you are going through is a rotten journey, bless you, your so young and I remember being your age when I lost my Nan, you just feel helpless. My only advice to you is to just be near her as much as you can, and as much as you feel you want to be. It may be worth talking to somebody you feel close to at school/college. A teacher you feel comfortable talking to, and explain everything. It maybe that you might be able to resit your exams another time. Try to maybe find comfort in how your Grandma would feel, maybe she would want you to do those exams, if she were strong and well enough to say that. Maybe that might be your way forward, to think to yourself, I am doing this for you gran x.

Apparently there is another site which I have picked up on other peoples discussions that might be better for a younger person affected by Cancer. I will try and find it for you and post the link, ok. take care

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hi *, the link I found was this

www.riprap.org.uk

it actually says its for children whose parents are suffering, but I am sure it maybe able to support you too. but keep posting on here, and you'll get some comforting replies and not feel so alone.

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hi Alster,
Thank you, it just helps to have somebody listen to my point of view, and offer advice.
I am going to try and talk to somebody at school after the half term this week, at the moment i am just trying to find the right balance between working towards my exams without feeling as though i am not spending enough time with my grandma, which is so precious right now.
I am dredding next week, as it is my worst week of exams, and if anything was to happen then i feel that i would have no control at all, over my exams or how i feel. I am just struggling with how to deal with all this. I worry for my mum too, and how she will deal with my grandmas death and the time it will leave her to dwell on things.
I feel as though i shouldnt really be saying all these things as i am no way the mosr affected person by this disease or in my family, but i didnt really know what else to do. Hope you are ok.

Thank you again x

FormerMember over 16 years ago

* your mum is probably alot stronger than you realise. us mums can take alot on our shoulders. you are obviously a gem of a daugher, and grandaughter from your comments, but you must not feel this weight all on your own, its way to heavy for you. All you need to do is give your mum hugs, cry with her if need be. I can see how you feel though * as I get like that and worry for my dad, but then I am twice your age, I do not seriously think I would be coping that well at your age. Although I do not know you, I am so pleased you have thought to log into this site. It might be worth clicking on some of the other support options that MacMillan offer. Try that other site though, not sure what its like, let me know if it helps you. Re your exams, as you say, talk to your teacher after Half Term and go from there, a step at a time ok. take care x

FormerMember over 16 years ago

well hello there peeps,am new here so pls be patient with me!! well i am on the family history breast screening prog after losing mum aged 39 and sis aged 46 to breast cancer. i went for routine mammograms and was recalled, they then did more mammagrams,ultrasound and biopsy on a very small "lump". i am now awaiting results of biopsy which should be here by the end of next week,but am just a little confused!! consultant has advised "dont worry too much,prob nothing" and also "may just be a little bit of thicker tissue" ?? so why all the tests if this is what he is thinking?? have had thicker breast tissue identified on mammagrams before so why they not able to see on the scan what it is?? is he just trying to reassure me ? should i be worried?? am i reading between the lines or should i just accept what he says that its prob nothing?? oh i dont know what to think! i am by the way 41yrs of age. any advice or comments would be great help right now,thx

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hi waffler 41 and welcome to the site, however, sorry you are needing it. You may find it helpful if you click on the tags to the left side of the screen and find a discussion that may have been started for the type of cancer you are being tested for.

As well as mum suffering, I have a colleague at work with Breast Cancer, she is undergoing radiation treatment at the moment, but on positive note, is managing to actually come into work on reduced hours. so thats a positive.

good luck and take care

FormerMember over 16 years ago

thankyou alster for your reply,,i was just reading your posts !! anyway i will check out the left hand column,thx once again

FormerMember over 16 years ago

it's a while since i was here. maybe i here tonight because big check up tomorrow. had a few goes at logging in.... got there in the end. problem is... cant see any conversations or ppls that i spoke to last time. possibly i expect too much :) (was actually hoping to be reminded).

anyway... whatever.... hello to all ppls :)

FormerMember over 16 years ago

hi there jfk,hope all goes well for you 2moz.

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