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Hello again Di,

I am not an expert on mesothelioma, but your mum will I am sure be able to claim compensation. Try these two links:

http://www.mesothelioma.uk.com/ http://www.mesothelioma.co.uk/index.aspx
Even if your dad worked at the same place, it doesn't mean he will automatically get the disease. My husband also worked with asbestos, for a short while. He used to come home covered in powder, but he hasn't got that. His lung cancer is secondary from the bladder. If you want input from others about working on "crown property", I would suggest you either start a new thread with Mesothelioma in title, or join one of the other threads on this cancer. You can find them by searching on Tags.

Hope your mum is soon home with her family

Wishing you all the best HarryBarb x x

Hello Di

My husband also has mesothelioma. I am not sure what area you are in but we have found our local asbestos support group a great help, from the beginning to now. If you google asbestos support groups you will find one near you, or I think there is also a list of them on the mesothelioma UK website. They were brilliant in explaining benefits and claiming compensation if you need any information. If you do decide to make a claim through a solicitor the asbestos support group can also give a recommendation, and the solicitors can put out a request for other people to come forward who had worked at the same place. They did that for my husband and several people came forward who had worked on the same site all those years ago. Hope this helps and all the best to you and your family. xx

Hiya?

I've just turned twenty years old in April, and July '08 I moved from S.Wales 300miles North from home with my boyfriend. With my family's complete support ofcourse, just because of uni and work at this moment in time.

In March my grandfather (father's father) was admitted to hospital with bladder stones. Everything was quite routine in the treatment etc. On the final scan, to ensure all stones had been removed it showed a growth on one of his kidneys. To cut a long story short... My grandfather now has kidney cancer, and the lates information from him is he's on chemo tablets for the next 6weeks, and are not thinking of operating. So I'm a mixture of emotions, at the moment, although remaining as normal as possible?
To add salt to the wound, my grand mother (my mother's mother) is awaiting results on her invasive bowel tests. As the surgeons beleive it may be cancerous. (Two years ago she had five cm of pre-cancerous intestine removed.)
At the moment I'm the mature, sensitive child, ( between one older, and one younger child) for my parents. Living so far away from home, means that they can pick up the phone anytime and have a really good moan and let off steam. Which they have done. Except my father prefers not to talk about his feelings (Like me) and I'm afraid he's starting to bottle everything up. Whereas my mother prefers to explode her emotions to close friends to get through situations she's in.
I've started to investigate both problems on the internet, as a support mechanism for my family, as well as for my wellbeing...I think!?

Just wondered if anyone's going through a similar thing? Or just to chat really? I think... any messages would be helpfull to me.
XX

Hi Kerys

I'm so sorry to hear that you have two grandparents who are now ill. All I can say is be very cautious about how much research you do on the internet. We have all done it I think, and all half scared ourselves to death! The problem is that every case is different, and when we research "blind" without the benefit of having some idea what is showing in scans or medical records, we tend to hear some of the wost scenarios that are likely not going to happen to the people we know.
I can understand that you want to be informed and know what you are dealing with. Thee is an excellent source of information attached to this site, since it joined up with cancerbackup, so I would say that is perhaps a good place to start, because it is factual, without being over dramatic. And ther are also lots of helpful sections on things like Talking to people with cancer, and Living with Cancer and different treatments. This part of the site "Share" is an excellent source of support & encouragement, because we all have questions about different things, and everyone on here understands the basic situation, because we are all dealing with cancer one way and another. Obviously different people have different experiences of various cancers. If you want to search for threads on any type you can go to tags at let hand side. Just click on Tags in green and then use the search facility.
I know it must be very difficult living so far away, and I wish you all the best
Love & hugs
HarryB x x

Ha Ha. Had to smile at the "boil" bit Dillys even tho I know its not funny. But he's a bloke! When was he given the diagnosis? Men's brains work on a different time scale to womens. He needs time to assimilate this news and chew it over a bit before you will get much reaction. I appreciate you said no cure, but what palliative treatment are they giving him?
This is a rocky road you are now travelling and you will both need lots of support. We all react differently to these things, but there is a lot of friendship, advice & support on here, so do keep posting. It might be an idea to fill in your profile and open it for others to view. Have a look at a few others to get the idea, then go to My Profile in blue lefthandside of page.
Have a good look around the site. If you go to the Home tab at top of page you can then also get to cancerbackup part of the site, which will tell you lots of things about different types of cancer etc. Also, you could search under Tags (lhs column again)for lung and that will bring up threads of people dealing with lung cancer.

Thoughts and prayers are with you. You are not alone

Love & hugs

HarryBarb x x x

Hi Jo

Sorry to hear about your mum's prognosis. I can fully understand your concerns. Before anyone goes home from hospital, an OT at least has to visit the home and make sure that person will be safe. They check mobility around the home. They check they can get in and out of bed safely, use the loo, the stairs, and the kitchen. If you have concerns make them known and make sure they are aware that the family are unable to provide 24 hour care. They will perhaps then suggest a nursing home, and they have to give you time to find something suitable. If your mum's prognosis is so short, time will have gone by, and if you still haven't found a suitable nursing home, maybe they will then get her in a hospice for her last couple of weeks.
There should also be hospice at home care available, or something similar but it often depends on the area you are in.
Hope you find a good solution
Love & Hugs HarryB x x