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Dee, we do like to help new folk find their way around, I've been here a while so know how to do it, 'Share' put these new threads up at the top to try make it easier and some of us try to keep an eye out to help too. I remember it took me ages to pluck up courage to post at the start. ( if you wish, you can read my profile too, that is another way of helping folk to help you, as then you don't have to keep repeating your story, mine is a bit long, but then our lass has been through it for a while!)

Hi again Moomy, I have read your profile and you and your daughter have certainly been through it. Thank goodness she has a mother like you and, you still manage to give so much support here. I have now opened my profile and am looking at the different tags that are similar. It will probably take months to get the hang of this but I feel better already. Lots of love Dee X

Hi Dee,
You will get used to the site eventually. I am so glad that you are looking around, you will find people on here to support you dear lady. Hope you are feeling a little better today. Please keep posting and let us know how you are. We are always here to offer a shoulder when needed.

Love and hugs Maryxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Dee
I had a median sternotomy last April.The aftercare is the same. You will be in pain but there is no need to suffer. Tell the staff and they will give you pain relief. The main thing is to cough. You will be in hospital about a week or so.Ifound all the staff brilliant and they answerd any questions I asked.They don't like you driving for six weeks after the op but check with your consultant
as you may well be allowed to go back earlier.I am fine now. Ihave breathing difficulties but these are down to the location of my tumors not the op.If you have any questions please ask . All the best
Regards Fran

Many thanks Fran for the advice, I will ask for pain relief when needed. I was told I'd be in about six days so its good to know I need to pack for a week. The only other thing I was told is that I cannot fly for 3 months, so it's good to know about the coughing anddriving. I will let you know how I get on. Lots of Love Dee X

Hi everyone, finally as a newbie, I have plucked up the courage to join in! My heart goes out to you all, but the love and support I have seen on here is tremendous.

My story in a nutshell began in Feb this year when my beautiful mum was diagnosed with lung cancer. She went to her GP back in Oct to be diagnosed with "whooping cough"............ Mum started her Chemo in March, a week later was admitted into hospital for 2 weeks with a mild stroke and to sort out her medication (which confused me let alone her). She was discharged and restarted her Chemo and had a further 2 sessions. All the way through she has been sick, not eating or drinking very much. It's almost as if this once strong lady has given up in herself. Mum has always been a fighter and to watch this once upon a time strong woman, dwindle down by over 3 stone in weight is frightening to say the least! After her last chemo session 2 weeks ago, mum was very, very sick and unable to keep anything down. I took her into A&E had to wait for a couple of hours to been seen by Triage (I thought she would have been fast tracked) Mum was finally admitted, put on a drip, more blood taken, x rays carried out to show she had a bad chest infection. The Onclogist confirmed last week that the scan mum had just after her last Chemo showed that the cancer has spread to her kidney and bowel, she has fluid on both her lung and around the heart................ they are concentrating now on the infection, with a view to later starting Traceva chemo tablets, which apparently targets the specific areas. Does anyone know anything about this regime? I hope and pray that mum will get well again soon, although deep in my heart I know she never will. She keeps saying that she can't go on like this and to see her suffering like this is heart breaking. I love my mum so, so much and can't so anything to help her. She has been in hospital a week today and has made no improvement at all. Still vomiting up till yesterday, when I saw her. I feel so sad that this cruel, cruel disease has literally brought my mum to her knees, in such a short space of time. I find each day is a struggle and cry everytime I see her, I know she doesn't want sympathy, but to see this frail, frail woman, who is half the woman she was is oh so sad. My family keep telling me that I have to be strong, I try not to cry in front of her, but I can't help it, I want to make it go away, but I can't. I'm sorry to go on and I know we all have our problems. If anyone out there can offer any advice that would be much appreciated. I know we are all hurting in one way or another. Wishing you all the very best. CJ xx

hello newbie CJ,
sorry you have to come here, but this site seems pretty good, at the mo, i seem to be hogging the forum, or at least teh wide awake club part - come & join us

oh CJ1972
I am so sorry for you.
My Mum got a pain in her back in 2004 but because of a pre-exisiting heart condition was not diagnosed with lung cancer until last Tuesday, by which time there was no chemo therapy or radio therapy on offer. Unfortunately, lung cancer has the highest mortality rate due to the fact that it is usually too far advanced to cure by the time it is found.
Now that is not to say that this is the case for your Mum, God forbid!!!!! and I know how hard it is to be strong and not cry every time you see her. I hope you have someone to cry on. I am sure you will find some solice here!
Come on love!! lets cry together!!!
jan x (((((((((((((big hug)))))))))))))))))

Thanks Stagbeetle & Jan, I can't believe I'm still up at this time............. Mum would have a fit - Lol. She would laugh at me before as I would be the one in bed at 10 and she was the night owl............. My mind is working overtime right now and I can't switch off.



Jan, I'm sorry to hear about your Mum too and your right, everyday is a blessing and we're not promised tomorrow. So we have to make the most of everyday. It's just so very hard. Lots of love, kisses and cuddles to you both. xx