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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Leanne01

Dear Leanne,

I am so sorry for your diagnosis. You are so young to be going through this, and I really feel for you. Please dont think you have to be strong for anyone. I am sure that all your family love you and want to show that. So please tell them your fears and let them comfort you and show their love.Real Love is two way thing you know. You can't give and not receive, and you can't receive all the time and not give, otherwise it becomes selfish. You will recover your strength with the help of your family & friends, and people on here. There is lots of support on here. People know how scary cancer is, and how afraid we all are. Its normal & natural to be scared of something that you can't control. You are welcome to request me as friend if you want to talk privately.

Also if you search tags for Cervical, Uterus, womb you will likely find otheres who have been through this already and who you can talk to.

Sending you Big Hugs my dear x x x x x

HarryB x x x

FormerMember over 15 years ago

dear harryb

Thankyou for your kind words means a lot to me i will try and talk about how i am feeling but it is very hard for me as im not sure myself how i feel one day im fine the nxt dayi feel i can't deal with it any more .........

with love and hugs

leanne xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

moomy over 15 years ago

Hello again, Leanne, I was hoping you might not now be reeling quite so much from the shock of that diagnosis today, I too agree that you need to confide in your family, and get their love behind you, too. As Harry says, they will want to show their love, as they have had your love, they will want to give back! Do keep posting, this is a great place to get support, as I'm sure Shelliey will have said....

Moomy

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi moomy

i have spoken to my mom on how i feel and it did help it was quite upsetting lots ov tears witch i did not want but feel a lot better for now .......my mom and dad both want me to move bk home with them as my husband works away a lot .....im not sure on this i know it will be easier for me and i would have the help with my daughter but i think its not fair to them it is something myself and my family have to talk about ......................i would just like to thank you for your kind and very ture words ............................. i have told my mom that she should come on here to talk as it is so easy and relaxing to do you dont feel so alone knowing there is ppl like you out there to help with a kind word or two

with loving hugs
leanne xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

moomy over 15 years ago

Leanne, I'm so glad you have talked to your mum, she must have suspected that there was something wrong, (us mums aren't daft!) and be relieved that at last she can offer to do something to help! About the moving back, you need to talk that over with all of your family before you make any decision about what best to do, and I don't think any of us on here can advise the best way for you, its a family decision, but you will get support on here for whatever you decide, of course! ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

Moomy

FormerMember over 15 years ago

hi im new to this site ive been logging on since june last year but now is the time i feel i can speak without being to upset my nan started loosin weight and had a coff so we took her to the docs who reffered her for testsin june last year they came back and said she had a lung tumour they then gave her an appointment for a cat scan which came back as two tumours they said this was a problem she was too old for surgery and they decided to give her six doses of radiation to try to stop the growth. this made her very ill.then in december they had to give her an oxygen machine cause she carnt walk without struggling for breath they also rescanned her they then said the radiation had burned her lungs.we were all upset but then more bad news the specialist said it lookes like the cancer has spread they are now going to rescan her in march a week before her 80th birthday to see how long we have left they recon it will probably be about six months im wondering what to do about her birthday party ive been planning for over a year and her holiday in april that i booked for her im so scared so upset i feel like im on eggshells around her allways a smile and a joke and a laugh when if truth be told im devastated i dont think il ever get over this people say at least youve got time at least you know whats coming and it wont be as bad i carnt see this im rambaling now sorry for spelling mistakes and hello to you all TAKECARE

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi wishing

I'm so very sorry to hear about your Nan and her illness. I know you must all be devastated. How is she in herself? Does she realise how ill she is? Does she know about the party or is it a surprise?

If she knows, then it is something for her to look forward to, and will help keep her positive. It doesn't sound like she will be able to go on holiday, but you never know, so I wouldn't cancel it yet. Try and stay upbeat and positive with her, as you are already doing. I know that must be very difficult for you. Does she have a Macmillan nurse? If not please ask her GP about it. The Mac nurse will not only help your nan, but will be able to offer the rest of the family some guidance & advice too. Keep posting, you will friendship and support on here
Love HarryB x x

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi all,

I'm a newbie here. My name is Sue and my best friend Alan was suddenly taken to hospital and found to have bowel cancer (and NOT constipation, which is what HE thought it was). If his daughter and I hadn't insisted on taking him when we did, he may not be around now. He is now going through the Chemo part of it all. He doesn't seem too bad now.

I do have a question for you all.

Subject: BENEFITS. Question: Would Alan be able to get something like DLA? I've been trying to find out for him and the more I look, the more confused I get. I get DLA for something else, and suggested he try, but looking at the form doesn't help to answer the question. That's why I'm asking all you nice people.

Thanks
Sue

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi Sue
Sorry you need to be here but you're in the right place for support and advice. I'm so glad Alan went to the hospital (good on you and his daughter for insisting) and that he is now getting treatment - I hope it works well.
My husband has cancer and he gets DLA so I'm sure Alan would qualify as well - it isn't a benefit it is an entitlement. We were fortunate in that the hospital where M is being treated sorted out all the paperwork for us (the head of voluntary services did it), if you don't have this help available it is worth going to the CAB and asking them, they are very good at helping with this sort of thing (in fact they are pleased to do it rather than spend time with people who are trying to claim for things they aren't entitled to).
I hope I have been of some help - if you don't have any luck get in touch with Macmillan directly (their number is on the home page) and they will put you straight, there is also quite a lot of financial advice available through them - have a look on the home page for that too.
Judy xx

FormerMember over 15 years ago

A close family member has been diagnosed with glioblastoma. I am finding it really hard to take it in. No one wants to talk about it, almost as if they think it will go away. I read all the sites and get more and more depressed, which isn't what I want. I want to understand and be able to help. Can anyone help me.

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