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Whether you’re here to talk to others, join a group, ask questions or just listen, everyone is here to offer emotional and practical support to help you with your cancer journey.

We know it can sometimes be confusing when you first arrive, with lots of forums and groups to choose from. So this thread is to welcome you, make friends and help you find your way around the site. Whether you are a patient, family member, friend or a carer, feel free to post any thoughts or questions here and other Share users will be happy to help you navigate around the site and find what you are looking for.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Lindsay

    Welcome to the site, but so sorry for the reason you need to be here. If you try searching the tags on lefthandside of page for ovarian or breast, you will find threads on those subjects, and you will find people dealing with same kinds of cancer as your mum. I hope you will find friendship and support on here

    Love HarryB x

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    FormerMember
    Not really sure what to say here, but Im going out of my mind! My Dad was diagnosed with cancer in April last year, and has deteriorated daily since then. He was told that he had carcinoid tumours in his colon, liver and stomach and that nothing could be done as it was too far advanced. Was it???? This was 10 months since. I feel let down by everyone. Im a single parent of 2 young children, and work 3 days a week. Every spare moment is spent with my Dad, who lives alone, and im not sure how long i can carry on like this! Selfish I know...it isnt me whos ill, who cant do anything for themselves, whos facing death, but I somehow feel that no matter what i do, i cant do enough. I actually feel like im losing my marbles! I cant stop crying at the cruelness of it all. Is there support out there for family? Friends keep telling me im doing a great job, and that theyre proud of the way im coping, but i arent coping! I guess that ive been lucky that ive never had to deal with cancer before, but i never realised what a savage illness it is! My Dad is wasting away before my eyes and i cant do anything!!! He has absolutely no quality of life at all. Wheres the fairness in that???? I know that i arent the first person to go through this, and i know that unfortunately i wont be the last, but i just feel like running away!!!! Before the men in the white coats take me away, can anyone point me in the direction of where i can get help???????
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    FormerMember

    Minimee,

    I am so sorry for what you are going through. I know how hard it is, and you do really need support and help. Firstly does your dad have a macmillan nurse? If not contact his gp and ask for referal. Also look at tabs at top of this page and go to GET SUPPORT. This will tell you where you can get various forms of help, but you will sort it out more quickly by going through your Macmillan nurse or Community nurse.
    Are there other family members who can help you out, or any friends? Its great to let off steam on here and talk to others, but you need some hands on help dont you? Try your GP, Mac nurse, community nurse first, then get back on here and let us know how you are getting on
    Big Hugs girl(( x x x )), I'm sure you are doing great, but its wearing you out
    Shout now for help
    Love HarryB x x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember
    please help my dad has bowel cancer the doctors think it has gone to the brain (they cant tell as he refused treatment as soon as the bowel cancer was diagnosed) he cannot move his body at all (this has only happned in the last 2 days and now hes having difficulty swallowing) can anyone tell me what happens next or from experience how long hes got left



    thankyou xx
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember
    Hello Tizzles - I am so sorry about your Dad. I don't know much about bowel cancer but if you post on this thread I am sure you will find people very helpful:

    http://share.macmillan.org.uk/Share/Forums/Default.aspx?topic=1002381&goto&page=

    I am afraid I don't know much about brain tumours either, but I am sure you will find people very helpful on the thread "We talk brain tumours"

    We talk Brain Tumours


    All the best
    Christine

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember
    Hi, this is all new to me. i,m a new member since my own dear mother passed away after her terrible battle with pancreatic cancer 8 months ago at the age of 51. it has been so hard at times that everything that goes wrong in my life is put down to her death and missing her so much has not helped. i,m trying to get on with my life but it,s not always plain sailing. you see we only lived 5mins away so you can just imagine the void she left being used to going to her at all times. what has helped is our faith in god that she is now in no pain and definetly back in his arms again.
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi LuvYumum,

    So sorry to hear of your loss, but glad that your faith in God is helping you. If you need to talk with others going through the grieving process, you might like to look at the Coping With Loss Forum. You could also fill in your profile to save keep repeating yourself to others, and open it to view. I hope you find friendship and comfort

    Love HarryB x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Tizzles

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad. Just because your dad refused treatment for his bowel cancer doesn't mean no treatment at all. He should be on palliative care for pain control and any other problems. His macmillan nurse, GP or community nurse should be able to give you all the information you need as to how long he is likely to live for, and what happens in the near future. I suggest you try this link: http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Resourcessupport/Advancedcancer/Dyingwithcancer
    and look at the topics on left hand side.
    Love & hugs x x x
    HarryB x

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    FormerMember
    hi im new to this i was diagnosed with cevical and womb cancer a week ago went to hospital today and they told me they are goin to take my women hood away cus thats the best (best for who them or me ) i am so scared its unreal i have my family round me but because i have always been strong willed i dont want them to know how i feel in the fear it will hurt them i dont know what to do xxxxxxxx
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember
    Hi HenriettaB, your advise is appreciated, thank you so much.
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