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Hello, I'm new too. It's helpful and also very sad that there are so many of us on this site. Cancer and Christmas are a tricky old combination.



I'm not yet sure how to make a profile for myself, but I'm here because my Mum had kidney cancer last year, followed by removal of the kidney, now followed by a secondary tumour in her abdominal aorta which was diagnosed three weeks ago. My father's words are that "the prognosis is not good" but she's having a course of chemotherapy in the New Year possibly followed by Radiotherapy too.



The most difficult thing (although there isn't really a single most difficult thing is there? It's all pretty difficult) is the open-ended-ness of cancer. I keep imagining it as an enormous unfolding landscape for which there is no map and even there was it's not clear where we're going. Although that's not strictly true - our family have a fair idea, it's just imagining what on earth we're all going to have to do on the way there.



I was never one for "journey" talk before this. I'd usually leave that to contestants on the X factor... Very glad I signed up, although it may take me a little time to be able to join in on the page that is unfolding for daughters and mothers. It's precisely what I need though.

Hello Sukie,



I am so sorry to hear about your mother, you will find much support and advice on this site.

To fill in your profile (as much or as little as you like), on the left, under 'logged in', you will see 'my profile', click on that and follow the instructions. My best wishes to you and your family. xx

Thank you HarryB and Kyrellia. I feel very welcome. xxx

Hello Everybody...another newbie here, my mum was diagnosed on 4th June with a malignant tumor in her bile duct (cholangiocarcinoma) Blimey what a tough 6 months We've had! She has been told that the tumor is in-operable. She's so scared of being told that she hasn't got long to live that it's preventing her asking any questions, even ones that she should be asking! My Dad's still around but he is as scared as mum. I have so many questions and I feel like I'm going mad. She has told my sister and me that she gives us full consent to discuss her case with whoever necessary but she's the kind of person who just doesn't want to make a fuss! I'm not like her, I'll fight all the way to get what she is entitled to. For god's sake she's only 58. I'm 34 and too young to be with out my mum, sorry folks, I'm sounding like i'm ranting, and i know every 1 of you have your own fights, I just don't know what to do for the best!!!

hello Clare,



I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I understand how frightened you all are. If you go to the left hand side, you will see 'cancer types' click on that and go to 'bile duct cancer' you will find other people who will be able to help you understand your mothers' cancer. Before you speak to your mothers' doctors, write everything down that you are worried about, often when you are actually confronted by a doctor, you freeze up and forget, it happens to most of us! You will get help and support on this site, my best wishes to you and your family.xx

Hey

Im new to this and I don't have a clue what I'm doing. I have writen my biography which is the main reason I registered tonight. As you can tell from my bio, I had a lot to get off my chest so just writing it all down really helped.

At the moment it's reassuring that so many people are going through what I am and I hope I can start to make sense of all the feelings I'm having right now.

Sarah x

Hello Sarah,
I am so sorry about your circumstances, but glad you have found this site. I tried twice to find your biography, but could not find it - let us know if you need some help with this.
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Hello Sarah - I have just seen your post on In Memory and I will reply to you on that Forum
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