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ok, I think I'm getting the hang of this! I've set my profile so that anyone can see so i hope you'l be able to read the bio now.
also, thankful: i have posted in "coping with loss"

best wishes x

Thank you for posting Sarah. I have read your bio now. May your dear Mum rest in peace.

Hi Siany

i think it's a perfect place to rant. Much better out than in.

I understand some of what you are going through. At the moment my Mum is in a hospice with a brain tumour. It looks like she doesn't have long left and it's obviously hitting us hard. We've had a few months to get used to the idea, but actually you don't get used to the idea at all. And Christmas just seems to make things worse.

My Dad especially is very angry about the unfairness of it all. Mum is only 67 and "should" have another 15-20 years left really. But the brain tumour means this is of course not the case. His anger hits him at various times - when he is talking to someone in a call centre, when the shop has run out of the one item he specifically went in to buy, with the useless general hopsital care....the list goes on. I'm glad he manages to let it out (though feel sorry for the recipients of course!). I am also pleased he doesn't take it out on Mum or us (me and my sister) or the nurses who are doing so much to care for Mum and also Dad.

Nothing that can be said to make this any easier for you. Yes, be strong for your Mum, but don't be afraid to have a rant - on here, with your friends, maybe also try finding your local Macmillan centre? We got in touch with our local one at the hopsital a few weeks back and it was helpful to have someone who had been here before and could help us out.

take care of yourself
Helen

Hello Siany - I am glad you have had a good rant! The news about your Mum has pulled the rug right out from under you. The helplessness and uncertainly are giving you a real shake-up. Do you long for an 'action replay' except that this time the consultant says there is no cancer? I did, when my Mum was diagnosed.
Keep posting!
Christine
(Also Welsh, but living in England now!

Hi neive07 thanks for your message. Haven't been on line for a few days what with christmas and all. I read that you recently had a baby. Thats great news and I bet it made your mum really happy. My mum would love me to have a baby but even though I've been with ny boyfriend for 4 years I dont think we're ready yet. Sometimes I wonder If we should get married and have babies earlier just so mum can see me do those things but then I realise it wouldnt be for the right reasons. It makes me sick thinking that she might not see me do those things though.
So I take it your mum doesn't live with you. Where is she living? My mum is at home with me and its just the two of us. I never got the chance to move out as my brother and sister had already moved out when my dad passed away and mum wasnt emotionally strong enough to be on her own then.
So how did Christmas go for you? Did you spend it with your mum?
Niffer xx

(((((( Kelly )))))
My Mum also had lung cancer and she had suffered from COPD for years, so her options were limited, too. I am a retired school teacher, so I know how stressful your job is.
Please request me as a friend if you would like hear more about Mum and how she coped and if you generally want to chat some more.I just checked your profile because I wanted to request you as a friend, but I could not find the friend request option.

Christine
x

Hello All,
Sorry but I havn't done this before.
Happy New Year to you all.
Love Mary xx

I hope 2009 will be a good one for you all in every possible way .... but I am painfully aware that, in many ways, it is not a good time for you at all.If you need prayer, you are welcome to contact our Prayer Group - click on 'Groups' on the top left panel.Christine