Hi Susan,
Don’t worry about not getting back, you have so much to do in other ways. I don’t know how you do it. I know I came onto this site a lot later than everyone else, and just lately my memory is not so good. I used to be so good at remembering things, but not sure if its because I haven’t worked since last May or if I’m just stuck in time at the moment. You have been through so much, losing both your Mum and Dad so close together and your husband being diagnosed with cancer too. How do you cope with all that?
I have read through all the posts on this site, but its difficult remembering who has experienced what and when. So I sometimes probably don’t say the right things. For instance, when I read through earlier posts, I realised that when I replied to Amanda, I only mentioned Josie, and looking back over the posts, I now know that Amanda has Josie and Aaron. That’s how useless I am. Sorry Amanda. x
Yes Susan, I did feel great yesterday, and I was ok earlier but as the day has gone on I’m feeling a bit down, but tomorrow I’ll be ok. We all get days like that don’t we. I try not to be sad because one of the last things Mum said to me was “have a good life my love”. It broke my heart, I cried all the way home. Well that’s me feeling sorry for myself, it doesn’t do any good does it, and it just makes other people sad, so SNAP OUT OF IT JAYNE.
I guess you're watching Man U? my husbands football mad. I darent tell you who he supports!! I’m glad to say his biggest passion is fishing, which we do together, especially beach fishing. I’m not so keen on course fishing, too boring sitting on a river bank, but put me on Chesil Beach with a rod and leave me all day, heaven. (with a bottle of wine of course). Anyway, hope you have a good weekend, (what's left of it). Love Jayne xxx
Hi Louise,
Your dream wasn’t a dream. You said it felt so real, that’s because it was. It really was your Mum and Dad telling you they are now together and are now healthy and happy. Its their way of communicating to you. Our loved ones don’t dare come back in situations which they know would frighten us. For instance, if they appeared in our living room, we would be really freaked out wouldn’t we. They know that, so they try and visit us in a way which doesn’t scare us, and dreams are the perfect way for them to do that. So it was your Mum and Dad, and I bet they are still talking about the hug you gave them.
I hope I haven’t said too much, but I just know our loved ones are still alive, albeit in their own dimension. ok we can't see them or hear them, but they can see and hear us. I’ve had all sorts of things happen that I daren’t tell people because they would think I’m nuts. I used to think that as every day went by I was getting further and further away from my Dad. But he changed my way of thinking because he came back to me one night (I will explain if you are interested). Since Mum has been gone I realise that as every day goes by, we are in fact getting nearer to them, because when our time comes, there is no doubt in my mind whatsoever, they will be there waiting for us.
I have to go now, the men in white coats are waiting for me outside!! No seriously, I’m not weird or mad or anything, I just know what has happened to me, and its so reassuring. Love Jayne xxx
Hi Jayne and thanks
Actually I’ve just looked up ChesilBeachand we’re not far from each other – perhaps we can meet on the beach sometime especially if you have a bottle of wine!! I can bring the French bread and cheese and we can enjoy the evening!
As for keeping up, you have done a great job at looking at all our messages and catching up – nothing wrong with your memory at all! As for me coping with everything, well there’s little choice is there, we all know that we do just have to get on, although at the time I must admit that I was feeling how much more is there to come! However, my husband is fine at the moment although he is very closely monitored.
As for feeling sorry for yourself, I know it is difficult. I try to make the most of every day but then sometimes even though I know I do have a lot to be grateful for, I still feel hard done by! However, all you say, there’s always another day and I am lucky to have a husband and son who rarely have down days!
Yes, we did watch the football today – great result- we were thrilled! Now as for our beach date, there will have to be one proviso, that no football is mentioned otherwise it’ll be all downhill!
Hope tomorrow is better for you and see you soon,
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