My dream has always been to be a mum and it's also been my biggest fear that I wouldn't get to be one. I had no reason to be worried but it would make me cry myself to sleep at the idea.
When I was diagnosed, my first question was if it would effect my fertility. I unfortunately couldn't have preventative fertility care and have gone through 2.5 years of chemo.
Now post treatment my hormone levels are good, I'm having regular periods and I'm ovulating every month. But I don't know what the quality of my eggs will be like. It worries me a lot.
Im 26 and in a 8 year relationship. I'm not ready yet but I want kids in the near ish future (by 30). My partner doesn't feel ready at all and always saw himself having kids in his mid 30s (currently 25). It's a conversation that we have really struggled with.
I don't want to miss out on my opportunity to have kids myself (if it's even possible) but I also don't want to end the relationship. :(
I dont know if I want support or just have somewhere to say this because I don't have anyone to talk to about this in my life.
Hi ALLaboutK and welcome to the Macmillan Community…… abd I just did not want to read and pass your post.
Navigating the cancer journey can be such a stressful and challenging time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' challenges can help a lot.
Let’s see if someone with first hand experience picks up on your post. You may also want to consider joining the support group for your specific cancer type
Have a look through THIS LIST where you will find all our dedicated cancer support groups listed.
I have been on my journey with 2 rare hard to treat types of Lymphoma for over 25 years….. the chemo and other treatments used to treat lymphoma is long and very strong….. but over the years volunteering on this community and another Lymphoma specific community I have talked with many women who had to go through treatment without the opportunity to have egg harvesting and they have went on to have strong healthy children.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
((hugs))
