We Talk Brain Tumours

Hi all,

Our dear G left us at midnight and I don't really know what else to say.  I've just got back from the hospice and I'm waiting for our daughter to wake up from her natural sleep to tell her.

Thanks for all your support.

Ange x

Dear Ange. I am glad that G has at last found peace. It is a different journey that you and your daughter are now on...but no less difficult. Know that we are all with you.

Love Cathi x

Dear Ange

G clearly used his last reserves to speak and hold you both then felt he could let go.  You have been a wonderful support to him.  Let's hope he now finds peace

lots of love to you and your daughter

Joanna x

Ange, oh what can I say to comfort you right now........there has been so much sadness on here lately.  Peace be the journey G, whatever and wherever they may take you.  I hope you can take at least a little comfort that he is now free from the beast and any pain he may have been experiencing.  As for your daughter, you know her best and will put her wellbeing first, so whatever you do, is right, so trust yourself xxx

SWorthy, I am sure your daughter understands more than you think, my daughter is 13 going on 25 (I swear there are some things she knows more about than me and I don't wanna know either!) and don't take it too hard about the "grumpy" comment.  I hope seeing your daughter happy on her birthday,  helps you feel a bit better, even for a day.  Don't think you are being disloyal to your husband, you are merely supporting your daughter through a very difficult time and you know very well it is what your husband would want, I am sure your daughter was very precious to you both xxxxx

Naomi, hope your older children are all feeling better and that your little one stays well enough for their operation.

Pete & Martyn (sorry your post was a while back) good to see you both post.

Waving hello to everyone, because I don't want to leave anyone out.......but hey I can always blame my brain tumour!

Love & Strength to all who want and need it xxx

Ange, I was saddened to read your post, yet also relieved for you all. When there is no hope, the waiting is what  is so unbearable in the end.

Mother Nature is wonderful in that she cushions you from the blow for the first few days following bereavement. However long you have been expecting it, the moment of death still comes as an incredible shock and it is almost impossible to comprehend.

I hope you and your daughter can take comfort in the incredible moments you shared with G last week and the amazing relationship you had with him and have with each other.

I cannot begin to imagine how it feels to lose a husband. I am 38 and when my dad died the pain rendered me breathless. My heart goes out to your daughter, to lose her daddy at such a young age is so incredibly unfair. May the upcoming days and weeks be gentle on you both.

With love,

Naomi.xxxx

Sharron,

My daughter will be 14 in February and she is exactly the same as your daughter! It's the nature of the beast! Losing a grandparent is that little bit more distant for them, despite how close they may have been. My children were very much like, "oh, that's so sad but he was 65, that's very old, now what's for dinner?". It is why kids are so resilient.

I, too, feel like it has happened to someone else. I can spout off facts and figures about brain tumours and talk to people about dad's death as if he was a distant relative but when I'm alone it's a different matter. I am not close to my mum or sister, they are very much a closed unit and I miss him so much.  I would give anything to smell him or kiss his head one more time. I feel like a lost child which is pretty ridiculous if you think about it!

Thank you for the good wishes for my son's surgery and I have been thinking of you today, I hope you were pleased with how the service went.

With love,

Naomi.xx

to the front page xx

To the front page too....and love to everyone tonight.

Cathix

Thanks for all your kind words.  I really don't know what I'd have done without you all over the last few months. x

G never woke or spoke after our amazing day on Monday and his last few days were horrendous apart from the last two hours when he seemed at peace.  Our daughter has been inconsolable today but she has eventually fallen to sleep in my bed and I have left her for a while to be alone with my own grief.  I feel like I have been hit with a sledgehammer and the thought of dealing with practicalities fills me with dread.  I so wanted Gs torture to end but now that it has, I am numb and it all seems so unreal.

Love to all

Ange xx

Ange,

I am so so sorry to hear about G. You are being torn in pieces at the moment of feeling relief that his suffering is over,but now hes gone its going to take you a while to come to terms with it... . Just to say that I'm thinking of you so very very much.  You take care of yourself there....

Julie x