My MIL had a mastectomy in October following a Stage 2 lump. She's currently on day 2 of 5 of radiotherapy.
She is a farmer of over 40years- yes, we are stubborn at the best of times.
Over the last few weeks her anxiety has gone through the roof!
We have a small flock of under 100 sheep. I work part time (3 days a week) and my partner (her son) works as a mechanic from home.
MIL has other health issues too COPD which has now limited her ability to be able to farm as she's normally used to. I understand that must be awful to get to a stage where you want to , but physically cant.
She's been told by the DR's and nurses that the effects of radiotherapy can take a few days to weeks to come out as such. I've told her not to go out in the cold and to be careful when she goes out for fresh air. However, being a true stubborn, set in their way farmer - she's not listening. I've voiced my concerns to her and told her that in theory she need to retire for a few weeks just while she has the radiotherapy and the after effects have cleared. She's already weaker due to the COPD. (I feel like I want to wrap her up in cotton wool at the moment as she's so frail)
I was wondering if anyone's family member had had severe/extreme anxiety during radiotherapy and whilst on Letrozole. MIL knows I can feed the creatures and look after them but she HAS to come out to make sure I do it how she's always done it. If I suggest doing anything differently or make things easier , it's dismissed.
She cannot accept that I have my own way of doing it that doesn't take me as long as her and the end result is the same. It's to the extent where if I'm busy doing something and she want to give hay to some sheep (for example) it has to be done when she wants it done there and then, if I don't do it there and then, she will stand next to me not saying anything just waiting, even if I've said I'd do it at a certain time. There is no patience any more - I've been wondering if this is a side effect or if I need to speak with her GP as the behaviour is becoming slightly obsessive.
Thanks,
