Hi there, I can draw parallels as someone close to their parents who is seeing them both deteriorate.
It is difficult when you don't have the necessary sounding boards as appropriate. It's important to leverage where you can.
It's impressive if you have gone so far without snapping. Very tolerant but having space to vent is important.I am finding myself snap too much and probably do that.
The question of am I doing enough is hard to know - but invariably you probably are. Life is beyond the caring responsibilities and support for the parents to get for themselves is a tricky one - they don't do it for themselves (different generation I find). That's not selfish either though, we can all benefit from help and support beyond the direct family channels.
I would say try and view things with milestones. What I'm trying to do is that. Trying not to look too far ahead. Deal with this week alone and where if any is there time beyond the carer responsibilities. It falls on me a lot for my two parents, and I need to make sure I have time for others in my life too. It does mean short term living but equally everyone has a different definition of what that is. So it's finding how far can you view
