Husband got diagnosed with rectal C late March and has just had his operation last Thursday.
It was so emotional when me and our 2 young children visited him the day after, reality of everyrhing hit I think.
He came home a week later ( Thursday just gone) and everything is so overwhelming. Suddenly I'm a carer along with being a mum all at once. I have next week off work. Me and my husband have been getting used to the stoma, and there have been some messy moments and sometime I think why! Why him, how has this even happened. He's young, always been very fit, never smoked etc etc. I know cancer doesn't discriminate. It's just shit.
He came home with the drainage bag still in because it was producing a weird coloured substance so had to keep on for 2 weeks and having to have a zero fat diet along with the low fiber. Anyway, it went very red, painful and some pus so took him up to the hospital today and he's still there while they work out what to do. He's also suffering with back pain and one day he got stuck unable to move at all and I was told by the ward to phone for an ambulance but because it wasn't a threat to life they couldn't help so that was stressful to deal with alone.
We don't know the stage either yet, waiting for biopsies. We do know it hasn't spread to other organs. So there's that to wait for.
When does things become a little easier? When does a person after an operation like thus become more like themselves again?
Thanks for reading xx
