Hi,
My mum was diagnosed with Stage iv metastic bowel cancer at the end of June. We know its terminal. But she has refused to be given any idea of how long she has but we are certain she wont make it to christmas.
We have dealt with it as well as we can. Even when chemo was removed as an option a few weeks ago. But shes not the same person she was.
My main issue is my husband and I just dont know how to tell our 7yr old daughter. Our older children (23 and 18) have been told and are dealing and coping in their own way and it was far easier telling them outright but the thought of breaking my wee girls heart is terrifying.
She is a VERY sensitive sould and still gets upset two years later over the loss of our dog to lymphoma, and was distraught when a child at school died in an accident.
I have informed the school that this year could be difficult and that at present we have not told our daughter about anything.
We know we have to tell her but I also dont want to mess it up. I also do not want her being with her gran when she is told either.
We have also decided that she probably wont see her gran again as I dont want her last memories of her gran being as a sick elderly old woman. I lost my own grandmother to bowel cancer 25 years ago and the last time I seen her still haunts me as it was not a pleasant experience so I want to avoid that for all my children.
So anyone have some guidance sage words? Ive read through the pamphlets but I still feel lost. Any help greatfully recieved.
Xx
