My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer 6 months ago. Since then my dad has been her primary care giver. Whenever I visit, Mum’s attitude to Dad is one of resentment and frustration that he is trying to live a somewhat normal life despite this big change in both of their lives. How can I broach this subject with Mum that it’s not fair to act this way? Is there any support that she could be given to talk this through that you know of?
Hi Kiri and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community and, although I'm not a member of this group, I noticed that your post hadn't had any replies yet. Responding to you will 'bump' it back to the top of the discussion list again.
I haven't been in your position, as I was the one with cancer, but you might find this information from Macmillan about how to talk to someone with cancer helpful, especially the section on dealing with difficulties.
You could also encourage your mum to phone the Macmillan Support Line as this would give her the chance to talk about how she's feeling to someone outside of the family. It's free to call on 0808 808 0000 and there's someone available every day between 8am and 8pm.
While you're waiting for replies, it would be great if you could put something about your mum's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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