How to cope with a family members diagnosis

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Hello, 

I received news over a year ago that my mum had cancer. The treatment for this cancer has been so delayed and long. I don't know how to cope with the news when we lost someone a few years ago to cancer. I am supporting her the best i can but i just dont know how to feel and i feel if i talk about it it makes me incredibly selfish.  

  • Me too. I'm trying so much to support my mum well and of course ny Dad  B7t I'm screaming on the inside all the time and crying at home alone all the time after seeing them or coming home from anywhere work them etc xx 

  • My husband has throat cancer and just completed 7 weeks of radiopherapy it has totally wiped him I was feeling just like you  and have been of work with stress even ended up in hospital my self . I was advised by my doctor to talk about it. I'm in leeds and acsessed magies den they are amazing. I also have used the mcmillan on line to help .Your not been selfish but trying to fi d your own way around if you feel that's talking you do it there is people around out there to listen and to support you.

  • My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer and cancer in her lymph nodes in October 2024. She had a mastectomy and axillary clearance at the end of November. Tomorrow she starts 4 months worth of chemo she then has 2 months worth of radiotherapy. I'm terrified she won't make it through this and I will loose her. 

    I am trying to be strong for my mum and dad but I feel like I'm starting to break. 

    I feel helpless.

  • i recently found out my mum has non-Hodgkin lymphoma and i'm struggling to express how i am feeling myself. So i can relate to this.

  • Hi holly22323323, my mum has just been diagnosed with lung cancer, seeing oncologist next week for a plan etc. She is my only family, it's only ever been just her and me, and I am massively struggling, although like you, I feel incredibly selfish. :( Please reach out if you want to chat x