Dad’s diagnosis

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Hi all,

My Dad was in hospital last month due to pneumonia and was remitted at the weekend. We found out that the fluid sample taken from his first admission has lung cancer cells in it. He can’t get a PET scan of any form until he is fully recovered and with the NHS blackout in my area everything is already delayed so it’s going to be a little while until we find out ANYTHING about the cancer. 

I’m currently at university, hundreds of miles away from him and the rest of my family. I’m so worried about my mum and my sisters, I don’t know how they’re doing and I’m scared everytime someone calls or texts in case it’s bad news. It’s finals season for me and my university are doing their very best to support me along with my friends and partner, I know I have a good support network but I’m still really struggling. 

Dad wants me to go forward with my exams and I agree that that’s probably the best option for me in our circumstances, but I know he’ll be devastated if I don’t do well or fail because he’ll blame himself. 

He is my biggest supporter and I am very deeply scared for the future. 

  • Hi bridge, I'm.so sorry you find yourself here. I'm glad you have support around you but understand that it doesn't stop you worrying about your dad and family at home.

    However, you are absolutely right that you need to go forward with your exams. I'm sure your dad would be devastated if you didn't, and you've worked hard for them for three years. Take all the support you can get at uni and keep in close touch with your family, but try to 'compartmentalise' your worries when you're working and revising. 

    Wishing you and your family all the very best. Hugs xx

  • Concentrate on your exams. Get a result that will make him proud, and be a comfort to him during his cancer journey. Collateral damage like you not doing your best doesn't help him.