Losing my best friend.

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I'm losing my best friend, it is so hard!

We have been fighting this battle for a fair few years now but have recently, the beginning of this year been thrown a curve ball.

She has battled breast cancer, ovarian cancer and now what we were initially told/suspected was mumps has turned into a rare, fast growing cancer in her neck, throat & jaw. We are now on palliative care, she has not asked how long it is too hard.

She has rapidly gone down hill, especially over the last week, she is in pain, sometimes confused & sleeps a lot. She is having trouble talking now too. I can for at the moment deal with all this as I have to be strong for her, she only has myself and her future husband. 

The thing that is keeping me awake at night is we have chatted on numerous occasions about the future and how she wanted to change her will to protect her partner. Unfortunately up until now this hasn't happened and I fear she is not well enough to do it now, I have been trying to encourage her over the last 3 weeks with my help to complete it online. 

I guess I am just feeling a bit overwhelmed with it all. I don't know how I can help fulfil this for her it is a big weight on my mind as I know how important it is. If I can't get it done I will feel so guilty, angry & upset. 

Off to give my head a wobble and go see my friend.

  • Hi chay22 welcome to the forum. I can understand your frustration  but sadly the law does not allow you to act on someone else's behalf when it comes to wills. I'm wondering though if time is on your side if you could get the solicitor to come to the house to meet your friend and draw up a new will including her wishes? You shouldn't feel angry or frustrated it sounds like you have tried as best you can to make this happen but it hasn't. So don't be too hard on yourself. 

    gail

     
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  • Thank you. I will chat with her partner & see if having the solicitor come to the house is something we can arrange.

    In hindsight it's something we shouldn't have put off, if nothing else it has made me think about my own will.

    Rachel 

  • Hi Chay,

    I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I'm in a similar position with my friend, though she has had some time to prepare her wishes. 

    Unfortunately I can't offer advice, but I'm also new to the forum and happy to chat if you ever need anything. 

    Good luck with the solicitor. 

    All the best,

    Rosie 

  • Thanks Rosie,

    It's so hard. We have been in touch with a solicitor, fingers crossed we can sort things over the weekend as she is deteriorating rapidly.

    Always happy to chat. x

  • M grew her angel wings yesterday. Devastated