Hello I'm new to the group!
My Mum has incurable cancer and also pre existing mental health issues. Unsurprisingly her mental health has really suffered since her diagnosis but it's leading her to make decisions I'm confident she wouldn't be making it she was mentally well.
She refused to go to her chemo treatment last week saying it was too much to leave the house and she couldn't face sitting in the room. She's supposed to have it every three weeks, I'm scared we're watching her unknowingly put herself in a terminal position.
Force have been amazing and offered her counselling, yoga, massages, groups to attend etc etc all of which she has refused.
I have sometimes daily calls from her crying saying she wants someone to take it all away and for her to not feel poorly or need treatment anymore. I suggest going for coffee and she doesn't want to leave the house, though she does still see friends occasionally and go out with them. I suggested this weekend but she said she wanted to do something 'nice' as if time with me and her Grandchildren isn't that.
I'm not sure how much longer I can keep receiving these phonecalls , I have two very young children and it's all just incredibly hard.
I appreciate this is a individual case but is anyone experiencing anything similar?
Sorry to read about what your mum and you are going through. Unfortunately I do not really have any experience of that though we suspect my dad was one for not overly looking after his own health.
I wonder if it might help you to talk to one of the advisers on the helpline here - 0808 808 0000 - lines are open 8am to 8pm 7 days a week. They are really good and I have spent quite a bit of time crying to them in the past.
It is important to remember to look after yourself - I know that was something I found out the hard way to look after you and your children.
<<hugs>>
Steve
