Hiya!
First time posting here, but I don’t know where else to turn to just word vomit and speak to people going through the same.
My mums just been diagnosed with cancer in her right lung, stomach glands and liver. She needs to have a biopsy to establish what stage and her care plan. But I’m fearing the worst as it’s in multiple organs.
I’m terrified but I’m trying to be strong for my mum. But my god, I’m scared. I don’t want to lose her. She’s my favourite person. All sorts are going through my mind. I’m grieving her but she’s not gone anywhere. She’s still living her normal life, as if nothings happening.
Can anyone share their experiences with helping and supporting a parent through this? How do you deal with the fear inside?
Hi Emelle01
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it useful to share with people on here.
My situation is different in that is my wife with cancer, Leiomyosarcoma but that is as secondaries in her lungs.
Almost everyone who has a loved one with cancer talks about being strong for them, I just wish that was as easy to do as it is to type. What many find is that they need to find some way to look after ourselves if we want to be the best support we can be.
There is some quite good stuff in your feelings when someone has cancer as I find being able to recognize my own emotions and accept them as valid can really help to make them less overwehelming.
Janice's cancer has been stable now for over 10 years so all we have is the occasional checkup.
<<hugs>>
Steve
