Hi everyone,
My mum was diagnosis with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and secondary liver cancer at the beginning of August. We found out yesterday that there are too many cancers now in her liver for chemotherapy to prolong her life to be an option and now we are at the end of what has felt like an incredibly short journey.
When she was first diagnosed we had expected, perhaps naively that she would still be here next August when I get married. Now I’m not sure she’ll make it through this Autumn.
I’m not too sure what I am looking for her, but to share grief and talk about anticipatory grief and how bloody awful it is, as well as cancer generally, would be great!
My heart goes out to those of you who are also experiencing this pain too.
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it useful as this so difficult time.
When I was looking at getting married by wife's dad was really ill and we did not know if he would make the wedding, he did not make it but we still had a number of things to remember him on the day so it felt he was there in spirit - that was 31 years ago now.
There is quite a good guide on anticipatory grief here that might be useful
<<hugs>>
Steve
We had a couple of photos on the top table.
We talked about him in the speech. The first time we met how he had noticed the brand name on my coat and the massive smile he had when we told him we were engaged.
We went to a cousins wedding recently and she had recently lost an aunt who had looked after her quite a bit when she was young and had lived with them for quite a few years. The flowers at the wedding were in her favourite colour.
<<hugs>>
Steve
