My 51 year old brother last February was diagnosed with cancer of the appendix, he has been given 6-12 months. I am really struggling to deal with this, we are so close and I feel absolutely heartbroken.
Hi Shelby, i am so so sorry. I have recently been through this myself, my husband was given 2 weeks and we lost him 1.5 weeks ago, he managed to stay with us for 5 weeks, he wanted to make our daughters birthday which he did.
Nothing i can say will make this any easier, the only advise i can give which is giving me comfort now my Husband has passed, is make memories, it doesnt have to be anything flamboyant, we couldn't do that. Just spending time together, talking, reminiscing, embracing those hugs and hand holds. Get his favourite food in, watch a film anything that brings you together and you get to spend time together.
I also made a memory box, things i did was get him to do his finger prints, his signature, record his voice, take lots of pictures, our children did a life quiz where we asked serious and funny questions about his life and noted it all down. He wrote down some quotes that he thought would help us, fill it with any memories it was nice to have my husband involved too and makes it even more special.
This might not be for you but we even spoke about his funeral and he had some input, this is a hard conversation, however for us it was lovely as he got to chose some aspects ( he didnt want to decide the whole thing) which i know will make the funeral even more special but likewise a lot harder.
Lastly don't leave anything unsaid, the only comfort i took from this was that we had some time so that we could say anything we wanted to each other so when the time came nothing was left unsaid.
Im so sorry you are going through this, sending you all my love and wishes.
