Hi there. my dad was diagnosed with canger a few weeks ago. It’s a fast spreading one, and his life expectancy is 6 months to 2 years depending on how he responds to treatment. There is a chance he will live longer than this, but it’s less common, and possible but not very likely that he will go into remission. I’m finding it hard to process and know how to handle the situation due to the unknowns, especially as he is being very strong & positive.
I would like to make sure that in case things don’t go well, I don’t have any regrets for the way I have supported/spent time with him. I live 40minutes away, and so far have spent a lot of weekends with him since the diagnosis, I plan on helping him with immunotherapy appointments, and helping out at home whenever possible - especially as he doesn’t have a partner. I would just like to know if anyone who has lost someone to cancer (especially a parent) wishes you did anything in particular for them, more of anything, less time at work, cancelled trips away etc during their last few months/year. Thank you
HI EdenJ welcome to the forum. I can only say to you that reading your post there is nothing else that you could possibly do as you are supporting your Dad as best that you can. We all have limits to how much we can do and how much we are able to do with other life commitments. What about sitting down and chatting with your Dad and telling him how much he means to you and is there anything he wishes to chat about that you maybe havent already done.
I lost my Dad 5 years ago very quickly we got 6 weeks from Diagnosis with Pancreatic Cancer, but I have no regrets about anything as we were very close and could talk about anything so I knew exactly what he wanted for example when the time came to organise farewells etc and more importantly what he definetley didnt want. Thats hard and there were many tears but I am so glad I did that as he did have several things he wanted that I hadnt even thought about until we talked so talking is good .
gail
