Shock diagnoses - Lung and Liver cancer

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Hi All

My mum and dad got back from holiday yesterday and my dad went to the doctor for a cough and chest pain. They sent him straight to hospital and within 2 hours he was diagnosed with lung cancer which has spread to his Liver. 

I'm broken. They have given him 12 months.  

I have a 3 year old little girl who is absolutely besotted with him and I can't stop thinking about how I will ever tell her he isn't here anymore.

I haven't slept and can't stop crying. I feel like my world has ended and I don't want the future without him in it. 

Please tell me this upset gets easier to deal with..

Just needed to vent this somewhere Worried

  • It’s so sad but the more positive we all are the more they will live a normal life. My mum is desperate to take the kids to Disneyland and I will do everything I can to get here there.

    hopefully your mum husband and siblings can help and support you? I just can’t help but feel if this ends badly soon I will basically be an orphan. Just feeling like a little girl who needs her mum 

  • You're right, we do have to be positive because otherwise it will be a very dark time for them. 

    My dad's dream was to take us all to Disney and its just heartbreaking because I know we will never get there. I really hope you will be able to!! 

    My husband and family are being great but we are all a mess. My mum also has a brain tumour so I think she feels like it's a nightmare all over again x

  • Oh god I’m sorry about your mum too. 

    how old are your parents? 

  • Mum is OK though at the moment .. she had a big op 3 years ago where they removed the majority of it and the rest hasn't change since. Fingers crossed...

    My Mum is 62 and my Dad is 65.

    How about your mum?  

    1. 68……wasn’t expecting this now was hoping this would happen 10 years time 
  • It's just too young isn't it. 

    My fingers are crossed that tomorrow they'll say his Liver is treatable or something. I need something positive to hold onto. 

  • I hope we hear something. It’s been 3 weeks now and had no diagnosis treatment plan or anything so I’m crying daily thinking I’ve only got days/weeks left 

  • How is everything? Mum is struggling to eat and keeps being sick. Worried this is it. 

  • He's just been to the hospital and they've said it's definitely terminal. 

    His Liver is speckled meaning there's no surgery or anything that can be done. On Tuesday they'll take a biopsy of his lung and we have to wait about 3 weeks for them to test it in a lab to see if there's any treatment that could help.

    We're booking a holiday and have no option but to go with the flow. Disappointed

    It's so terribly sad but in trying to he positive for his last months.

    Sorry your mum is struggling. Hopefully they've caught it early if she didn't have symptoms before breaking her hip? It's so worrying Xx

  • I am so so sorry. Great you are booking a holiday though. You will have to let me know if it’s easy to do as I want to do this for mum when she’s recovered. So no treatment then? 
    still waiting on bone results! It’s been 3 weeks now it’s crazy! Just hate how bad she has got! Your dad didn’t have any symptoms though did he?