Hi everyone. So my mum was diagnosed with small cell carcinoma, lung primary, has spread. I have now learned that it's in her bones to, she is having chemo and it has shrunk the tumours, although I know this is only to try and prolong life. She is going to have radiotherapy too but to be honest, I'm at a loss and don't know what to do anymore, I lost my dad to cancer a few years ago and now I will lose my mum.
Hi MichH
Sorry to read about both your mum and your dad, I can see how this would affect anyone and so glad you reached out on here.
With my wife's cancer I was really struggling and ended up walking in to the local Maggies center at the hospital and mostly cried at them for about an hour. They helped me form a plan for the next few days - about the most I could probably cope with at the time.
Later I did a living with less stress course, it helped me focus on the here and now and meant I could appreciate what we have rather than worry about what I will lose, there is a good article on here around anticipatory grief and I know I recognize a lot of what I was going through. The power I found was in recognizing those emotions, acknowledging they were valid but not allowing them to feel quite so overwhelming.
Life of course still does to like throwing a curve ball or two, the conscious breathing techniques I was taught on the course were really helpful in being able to take a step back, a deep breath before coming to tackle the problem
<<hugs>>
Steve
