Mum gone downhill

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My mum had a high dose of chemo for her last one. Since she had that she has never recovered from it. I'm worried over her as she's back in hospital again for the 3rd time. She is covered in bruises and cannot eat or drink. I'm scared we are going to lose her. My mum used to be a strong independent woman, and I know having to rely on other to do the basics will be making her feel depressed. She can't communicate properly. When she looks at me it like she doesn't even know who I am even though I'm her double.

I'm just reaching out to see if anyone has known someone go so downhill like this. 

  • Hi  

    So sorry to hear about your mum, fingers crossed that she will be home again before too long. I always know my wife is ill when she actually wants to go to the hospital but getting out again sometimes seems so difficult.

    I get what you mean about the strong independant bit, my dad was very like like until a series of seisures robbed us of him bit by bit, not cancer in his case.

    Issues with communication can be frustrating for everyone so sorry you are going through this.

    <<hugs>>

    Steve

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  • Thank you but we had the worse news today she won't be coming home she took a turn for the worse. They going to give her medication so she can go with dignity.

  • I am so sorry my heart just breaks for you. Hold on to each other for comfort and support. So glad you are there for your lovely mum. Thinking of you , you are in my thoughts and prayers xxxx

  • Thank you am so heartbroken x

  • So sorry to hear about your mum Rosemarie. My wife was diagnosed with Melanoma in the late summer including brain tumours. Every time I think there is some progress she has a setback which is heartbreaking. It happens so quickly which is always worrying. Thinking of you at this difficult time.

  • Thank you it is heartbreaking to watch them when they look so well then they go downhill so fast. That's what happened with my mum she was all set for the car Ming home then just deteriorated so fast. My heart goes out to you. I will miss my mum so much but she is out of pain now 

  • I’m so sorry that you are going through this , u are not alone and I’m really struggling too , the last dose of chemo before the surgery should have been booked in September, due to dose delay of the chemo  causing blood clots , mum is now fighting shingles which has attacked her nerves in head and eyes , on top of this had cedif , a stomach infection 

    she can’t eat and being feed vis a tube and and see any light as she’s just not getting any better with all the meds 

    I understand they are trying to fix this but feel like I’m losing her and can’t give up , had colitis, sepsis then blood clots , so close to booking surgery then this has happened, I’m breaking my heart and need some reassurance that some one has gone through the same and it’s all been ok xxx 

    sending my love to you all going through this sad journey.. xx

  • Hi all,

    Thank you for all your support but I'm sad to say not long after putting this mum died on the 14 December she never recovered from the last dose of chemo. It broke my heart and I miss her loads. All our random chats on my way home from work.

    I just really wanted to say thank you.