Hello
i am 54 and my husband is 55. I was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer a year ago. It’s incurable but treatable and at the moment I feel well and my scans have all been stable bar one which seems to have been a one off. This post is not about me though it’s about my husband. He has been my rock as I went through my primary diagnosis 12 years ago and this diagnosis. Now he’s the one that needs me. He has not yet been formally diagnosed but is under the hospital and we are waiting a diagnosis. He had a biopsy on Friday so we are hoping to hear this week. A huge lump was found down his throat and lymph nodes in his neck have turned hard and are huge. The biopsy was taken from his back so either there’s something new there or it’s spread from neck. He in pain and has been given morphine. He is thinking the worst and is sure he’s dying. I’ve tried to be as positive as possible but part of me thinks he might be correct as it has grown so quickly and it seems like we’ve been waiting so long for diagnosis and treatment. How can I help him? I’m trying to do what I can practically but I want to try and give him some hope and other than telling him about the different possible treatments I don’t know how to help him feel more positive.
thanks for reading
Jac x
I don't know if this will help but you say he was your rock while you went through your diagnosis. So what did he do that supported you - can you remember what it was that he said?
My husband also has cancer and has been my rock throughout our life together and one of the hardest things for him to accept was having to rely on me to do things for him instead of it being the other way round - I just remind him that I married him for better or worse and in sickness as in health and that's what we've done and will continue to do.
Sending hugs 
