Feeling guilty

Hey, I’m feeling the same as well. I’m a teacher and live an hour away from my parents. My mum has also been diagnosed with ovarian cancer and she is currently on hospice at home and I think things are coming towards the end. I have a partner and stepson and have been trying to juggle everything. It wasnt too bad over summer as I went to see them every week but now my dad seems like he’s struggling and I’m feeling the guilt. They’re telling me not to take time off work as they say they’re okay with the carers but I feel horrendous. I am contemplating signing myself off next week to go and help them. 

I don’t particularly have any advice to give (as I’m looking for some of my own) but I want you to know I’m thinking of you and you are not alone, even though you might feel like it. I know I do. 

hello, I'm also at university while my dad is going through cancer treatment and i have the same guilt. however, he wants me to continue here for as long as i can and try to enjoy my time. i've been really struggling as well but i know that the medical experts are doing as much as they can. 

the ways i've got help are by letting university know (they've been very supportive and given me a grace period) and by arranging a weekend during term time to go home. i also phone him each day. you're not alone in this and i hope you get a chance to spend some time with her.

I totally get you, it’s so hard with what you want to do and what they tell you to do. I’m very sorry for what’s happening with you and I hope you found some advice. Thinking of you.

Thank you. I phone her everyday and night just to check. I hope you’re doing okay and thank you for your advice. It’s nice to hear that I’m not alone. Thinking of you 

Don’t feel guilty. Think about what your mum wants  As a parent, we did not raise our kids to be our carers - we want you to have happy lives - to be successful. Yes, this is hard but you’ve got your entire life ahead of you.