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Hi, I'm new to this but am struggling. My sister has stage 4 breast cancer and had a metastatic spinal cord compression in May which has left her paralysed from the diaphragm down.  She is now in a nursing home about 2 hours drive from me.  We phone each other every morning and I visit every weekend.  She is an amazing woman and I love her very, very much.  But my own emotions are all over the place.  One moment I feel reasonably OK, the next I feel very anxious or very depressed  I think I manage to appear OK to those around me  but underneath I'm not feeling well. 

  • Sending a virtual hug.
    Being the relative of a cancer sufferer is awful - you feel so helpless, but please know that your support means the world to your relative.

    If it all gets a bit too much for you, try meditation or therapeutic yoga. And for those “I just can’t cope with this” moments, ask your doctor to prescribe diazepam. I know you won’t want to rely on medication, but for those absolutely awful occasions it really can help you press “reset” and carry on.

  • Thank you. It's so good to know there's someone out there who understands.  And a virtual hug is so lovely. Thank you.