Hi, I'm new to this but am struggling. My sister has stage 4 breast cancer and had a metastatic spinal cord compression in May which has left her paralysed from the diaphragm down. She is now in a nursing home about 2 hours drive from me. We phone each other every morning and I visit every weekend. She is an amazing woman and I love her very, very much. But my own emotions are all over the place. One moment I feel reasonably OK, the next I feel very anxious or very depressed I think I manage to appear OK to those around me but underneath I'm not feeling well.
Sending a virtual hug.
Being the relative of a cancer sufferer is awful - you feel so helpless, but please know that your support means the world to your relative.
If it all gets a bit too much for you, try meditation or therapeutic yoga. And for those “I just can’t cope with this” moments, ask your doctor to prescribe diazepam. I know you won’t want to rely on medication, but for those absolutely awful occasions it really can help you press “reset” and carry on.
Whatever cancer throws your way, we’re right there with you.
We’re here to provide physical, financial and emotional support.
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