Hi everyone hope you’re all well. My name is Hajirah and I’m 31 years old. My mum was recently diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer (Adenocarcinoma). My mum is currently receiving tablet form treatment to help stop the spread of the cancer and to reduce the tumours in her body. If I’m being really honest, I’m struggling a lot to cope with everything, I was raised by a single mother my whole life, my mum for me is my world and imagining and preparing myself for a life without her is breaking me. Everyone around me keeps telling me to stay positive and hopefully the treatment will work but her prognosis is 2/3 years with treatment so I find it really difficult to stay positive because I keep thinking of the worst.
Hi Hajirah and welcome to our community, though sorry to hear about your mum.
I totally get the idea of people saying "stay positive" but that is just so much easier to say than to do. My wife never wanted a prognosis for her cancer but then nobody could have guessed how she coped with treatment.
I did a living with less stress course that really helped me. I spent more effort thinking about how I would cope when my wife was not here and it blocked me from enjoying the time we have. Life still likes to throw us curveballs of course and the conscious breathing skills I was taught can really help there.
Something I find quite helpful was talking to the staff in my local Maggie's centre and working with Macmillan is really helpful to. There are quite a few resources in our talking about cancer website but as you have seen people close to you may not be best able to handle the news.
Do post on here whenever, or it it helps ring the helpline - I found them quite helpful and very patient.
<<hugs>>
Steve
Thank you so much Steve for your kind words. I hope you and your family are doing well. I just read your bio and saw that you have a son with autism. I also have a 3 year old daughter with autism. 
