I have only known about my brother's cancer since April, when he was diagnosed with advance prostrate cancer. It was never curable but treatable, he had sessions of radiotherapy which worked and got his PSA levels down. But now he has just been told while in hospital that his liver has increased with cancer cells and told last Monday he had a few months left. My head is in turmoil and my heart is breaking as he is very independent. He is single and never married and no other siblings, the Dr has not been back to see him since. This has been such a hard week and I don't know how to get more information. I feel frustrated but not asking to many questions for fear of upsetting him. Has anyone got any advice please.
Hi Tippy46
So sorry to hear about your brother; it does sound like your brother has been quite good at including you since you talk about knowing since his diagnosis - not everyone gets that sometimes because of not wanting to be seen as a cancer patient but still as the person we know and love.
There is quite a lot of information on the main site about advanced prostrate cancer that might help answer some of your questions, you might also like to look at some of the posts in the Prostate cancer forum as there will be people at all stages in that mix.
For me, my wife has Leiomyosarcoma so a totally different cancer. She was determined never to have a prognosis and to be honest I do not think the doctors could have given one that really meant anything. So far she is 10 years in to living with cancer - however getting our minds around that as a concept took quite a lot of work.
What helped me most was a living with less stress course - just realising that nobody really knows what tomorrow will bring so best to enjoy today. That and knowing when to reach out to a friend.
<<hugs>>
Steve
