Hi Everyone,
Earlier this year my sister was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, she is only 43 and in May had a 20x25cm tumour removed whilst having a full Hysterectomy. Whilst we are massively relieved the tumour is out she has been told she needs x6 sessions of chemotherapy to kill off any remaining microscopic remnants.
We are a very close family and my sister is particularly close to my 9 year old son. He is aware that Nuts (his name for my sister) had a big lump removed from her tummy but he has no idea that it is/was cancer. My sister has been told all about the side affects she may experience whilst having the chemo and that it is highly likely she will lose her hair.I
want to prepare my son Incase my sister suddenly looks different to him, I know he will panic and think she is dying, but I don't know how to talk to him without scaring him!
I am doing my absolute best to keep my emotions from him as I don't want him to worry about me.
Can anyone offer advice as to how to approach the subject with him? I don't want to not tell him because I think him being even slightly prepared will help him.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated 
x x x
hi Tinyone
Sorry to hear about your sister but well done for recognizing that it is important to include your son. For us it is my wife who has the cancer and our son has lived with that for about 10 years now from when he was a similar age.
There is quite a lot of information in talking to children and teenagers and we also found the book "The Secret C" by Julie Stokes quite helpful. We were also very lucky to get lots of support from his school and meant that he got consistent answers from all the adults.
<<hugs>>
Steve
Thank you so much for your message Steve, I hadn't seen the page about talking to children and it has been so helpful.
We at going to talk to Jude this weekend and I feel a lot more prepared about how to go about it now.
I hope you're wife is ok!
I'm sending you love and gentle hugs 
Beth xxx
