Hi,
I’m new to this, so please don’t judge. My dad has been diagnosed with Cancer of the tongue and has started his treatment, he’s 3 weeks in and really isn’t well from the radio therapy, he has lost weight, all he does is sleep and is in so much pain. He’s been told it will only get worse. I’m devastated about the diagnosis but feel so helpless that I can’t help. Is this normal? Am I being selfish?
Hi Bimbo
Sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis and the effects of the radiotherapy, it is so worrying to watch our loved ones going through treatment.
If we look at your feelings when someone has cancer I recognize a lot of how I felt and it sounds similar from what you write - normal - well yes for what we are going through very normal and not at all selfish. However recognizing this can help give us some control. I did a living with less stress course that really helped me to realise that I needed to make the best of every day. Somedays still suck but overall we have more good days than bad.
Welcome to our community, hope you find some strength and support here and together we can make a great team in the very strange normal we now live in.
<<hugs>>
Steve
