Hi,
I don’t know what advice I’m really looking for here, just need to vent and know I’m not alone. My mum is only mid 50s and was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer just over 3 years. Just before Christmas we were told she had a brain tumour. Her most recent scan has shown her brain tumour has reacted positively to radiotherapy and her liver/bone tumours remain stable off chemo at the moment. Despite this, I feel like I’m watching her deteriorate. She can no longer use her legs which we assume is due to where the tumour was located as well as the fact she had a fall, fractured her ankle and was in hospital for 4 weeks bed bound.
she’s getting more tired and confused at times despite everything medically remaining as positive as it can. It’s breaking my heart seeing her weaken and I just don’t know what to do. I’m only 27 and watching my dad struggle is so hard. She’s still eating and drinking which is giving me hope but I feel like our time is increasingly limited :(
Hi CTO30
So sorry to hear about your mum, 4 weeks bed bound is something quite major in it's own right let alone everything else going on as well.
Is there anyone providing support to your dad? I know it took me a long time to admit I needed any help when my wife was ill up until the point that I simply did not know where to turn next. It might help to consider ringing the helplnie here who could advise on what support might be available where you are.
It can be helpful to look at our pages on supporting a family member with cancer as the emotional effects are easy to underestimate and that can make things more difficult than ever.
<<hugs>>
Steve
