I’m new here and very scared to open up.
brief background on me, I’m 27 my grandad (mums dad) has been my absolute rock my entire life. Non existent dad. Don’t have a good relationship with my mum either, so my grandad has always been my stable, loving home. The safe place I grew up where I ran to when life hits hard. He is not even 70 yet and his tumours are growing faster by the day. He’s on palliative care, he’s In pain most of the time. I just want to help but not even sure what to do I feel like a “spare part”.
I do know it’s not about me which is why I’m here looking for advice to help me gain the most out of the little time my grandad has left.
id love to make him more comfortable etc bring his spirits up. I’m not even sure where to begin - I also don’t want to feel like I’m nagging him or pressuring him either :(
im so so emotional too the thought of losing him for a second makes me burst into tears. I’ve not dealt with loss before I’m very scared about it
Thank you in advance
posting at 4:30am. Insomnia for me. Now I’m beginning to get tired the anxiety thoughts of death haunts me
Hi Catera22, this sounds like a very difficult time for you and it's only natural that you're feeling this way. At this stage of his illness, perhaps simply spending time sitting with him, so that he knows you are there. Can you chat to him about good memories of your childhood, stories that you fondly remember. Or if this is too difficult for you, just being there I am sure will be a comfort to him.
Also, don't forget if you need some support yourself, you can call the lovely people here at Macmillan on 0800 808 0000 as they are always willing to listen and support.
I hope this helps a little in this tough time
