Both my my Mum & Mother in Law have Terminal Cancer

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To have 1 family member diagnosed is bad enough. But 2 close ones at the same time is very hard to come to terms with.

My mother in law was diagnosed before Christmas with Lymphoma, and no treatment can be given, with life expectancy of up to a year.

This week my mum has just been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, which has spread to her brain, and in her lower body and bones. She is starting the new drug next month, to see if they can slow the cancer down. She has been given 1-2 years.

Tbh I’m struggling. And just needed a place to talk. Knowing there are people here who are going through the same thing. And wondered if there was anyone else experiencing more then one family member being diagnosed as terminal?

frantic10 over 1 year ago

Hi Queens it is me that has cancer now, but during the covid years long before I had cancer 3 very close inner family members, an x partner whom I had stayed friends with and every one of our extended family bar 1. It was all different to ancer but none the less years of continuous grief. 2 with covid related problems. With so many several were within months of each other. I am lucky with best family in the world - many of us would say that, I remember finding it really difficult to watch so much suffering and I fairly sure you will be feeling the same. Some of us thought our family was jinxed, and I kept bouncing around somewhere between rage at the injustice of it all and extreme sadness. I was so confused in my thoughts, it was tearing me apart. My career was mental health area manager so I am not one for flights of fancy and i loved my job. So all this stuff was a real body blow and especially my thoughts. My gorgeous sister in law died unexpectedly and it was a body blow. Thankfully we were able to be with her, but she never got chance to say goodbye to any of us. She was the last a year ago, and now I have terminal cancer with their best guestimate at a year, if i manage the brutal chemo. their words. but they dont know me an my motto is I'm going to live forever! and I am totally at peace with it. and i get chance to say goodbye.

I will feel eternally blessed. So whatever you are thinking, its okay, its normal, it shows you care should you wish to talk to me an offload I am ready to listen. but it is absolutely fine if you dont wish to. It has to be your way for you. Loving Thoughts coming yoour way

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