Hi all.
my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer and secondary is his bone and liver. He was admitted to hospital last Sunday and was discharged last Thursday. He has come to live with us and I’m finding so hard to be positive and strong. Every time someone shows me a bit of kindness I burst into tears.
my husband is amazing and trying to support me and help me round the house and do the driving.
im struggling with trying to keep up with all my dads tablets and his confusion and doctors appointments. I had to take him to the gp tonight as he is confused and in pain, and the doctor gave him medication and as soon as he had it, he vomited. I know he get’s embarrassed about things like this and I keep telling him not to worry.
please can anyone give me any advice on support for him.
thank you in advance x
Hi Welshwife
Thank you for posting here, I think many of us recognize what you are talking about and that idea of being positive and strong - so easy to type - living it though - something else altogether. Totally get what you mean about a bit of kindness - Janice likes watching the repair shop and so often I find my eyes watering at how grateful people are.
If we look at Your feelings when someone has cancer we might take comfort in how "normal" we are - people trying to cope with extra ordinary circumstances as the world changes around us - not easy is it.
It is easy to become embarrassed by things we cannot help, perhaps it might be useful rather than looking at "do not worry" to perhaps identify the source as the cancer - I know some people give their cancer a name and then it can be easy to thing blame - whatever.
<<hugs>>
Steve
