Hi everyone,
my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer just before Christmas. He has started his chemotherapy and I feel like he isnt quite coping as he comes out with negative comments and I’m trying to keep him thinking positively. He is also in so much pain most nights and I hate seeing him like this. Does anyone have tips on how to help him feel more positive and how I can feel less stressed and upset all the time.
Dan
Hi Dan V and welcome to our community though sorry to hear about your dad.
Starting with your second question - about feeling less stressed and upset we can look at Your feelings when someone has cancer because as some point out it can be a bit like on an aircraft "fit your own mask first".
Possibly by sharing his worries with you he feels you are supporting him - generally we find talking to be very beneficial so I for one am really glad he feels able to share his worries with you. What does your dad want to do about the pain? Has he spoken to the oncology team to see if there is anything they can do? You might like to look at our page on pain.
I know I broke in dealing with my wife's cancer and ended up doing a living with less stress course - the most positive thing I got from that was learning to be grateful for everything we have and everyday rather than planning for a future I could not control or mourning that future we lost.
Do keep posting because our family here is the best in the world.
<<hugs>>
Steve
