Hi all
I am new to the group. My Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer 7 Months ago after several hold ups to treatment for one reason or another she had a mastectomy in December we were initially told that would be the end but she now needs chemo and radiotherapy as the cancer was much larger then first thought.
I am really struggling with coping with the diagnosis for her, I suffer with my mental health and I just feel like I have no one to talk too. My partner is not very supportive and I don’t want to burden my family with my problems and make it all about me. I haven’t spoken to anyone about this as like I said I don’t want to make it about me but I am really struggling. I have a young family with 2 children ages 6 and 3 and work I just feel overwhelmed with life at the minute. I am so sorry if this post sounds negative like I am just moaning that’s not my intention I just needed to get it off my chest I guess and see if anyone else has felt this way and has felt terribly guilty for feeling this way xx
Hi Izzy1980 and welcome to our community, really glad you found us and thank you for sharing because I think everyone on here will recognize just where you are.
If we look at Your feelings when someone has cancer we can see how "normal" your response is so sorry I have to reject the idea you are negative or moaning.
I know when I "came out" at work there were a few members of staff who were shocked, partially that I was still vaguely functional but many also said how I was inspirational - oh thank you that is so helpful (NOT).
What way much more helpful though was colleagues who came to speak to me and did the #MeToo moment.
How do I keep function - well I found people to talk to - often people just like you - because that was me. I was overwhelmed but you know bloke reach out for support - not happening - and I broke. I needed help and I found some and how on here I can share the love.
<<hugs>>
Steve
My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer almost 3 years ago now, and I found it so hard to deal with. it is so hard to see somebody you love go through that. I used to be strong when with her and be I in floods of tears as soon as I’d left. You’re definitely not on your own in feeling that way - you just have to try and be patient with yourself and know that it’s completely normal to feel like that.. It’s just so hard, but things do get easier 
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