Hi
My wife got diagnosed with breast cancer back in May and has suffered with clinical depression (i think more bipolar) for yrs also. And has, no family support.She seemed to be quite positive to start with then began to have a few wobbles and down/emotional days Which is totally understandable. But started going out all day and coming home late, I think trying to run away from it. I had wired with her because we have 2 teenage boys and we never knew when she was coming home, so fell out abit, I think she thought I wasn't being supportive!.. and she just started to push me out didn't want me at appointments wouldn't tell me what they'd said. Totally gutting I thought I'd been there for her. But she just seemed to turn on me right from the diagnosis. Then when she was just about to start chemo she started talking about moving to her friends, which she did the day before her 1st one. Been 4 months now and no sign of her coming home, last chemo this week. Only seeing boys twice a week, they feel totally abandoned. she's a,carer and always put the boys before anything, she's struggling but like a totally different person, I'm in pieces, and don't know what to do apart from taking everyday as it comes!!?
Hi Filo76
Sorry to hear about your wife and the issues she has and the impact it is having on you and your boys. In my many years on here I have seen relationships that grow stronger because of cancer and relationships that become more strained or even break. At one point my wife was in to "don't worry about me" but of course that was much easier for her to say than for me to do.
One thing I did was a living with less stress course and that bit on "taking everyday as it comes" was a key element. I certainly could not control what the future might bring and was capable of imagining things much worse than they actually turned out. Of course life still likes to throw a curveball or two and the conscious breathing techniques are great for dealing with those.
How old are your boys? This must be worrying for them too.
<<hugs>>
Steve
