Hi, we was told the horrible news in October that hubby had stage 4 lung cancer and since then it’s gone down hill, he was admitted to hospital in November with pneumonia which caused part of his lung to die. The oncologist did tell him that he could try chemo to make him more comfortable but he wouldn’t advise it as it would make him more ill and if he caught an infection that would be fatal.
Our daughter has always struggled with cluster headaches and these have been getting worse with the stress of everything. (She’s 25) I just want to know how to help her? We are a very close family and have always talked about everything, but she is struggling with her dad being so ill and I know she is worried about me because we have spoken about it, I have told her that I’m ok and it’s something that I have to get on with but I know she still worries. I’m just focusing on hubby and what he needs to make this as comfortable as possible for him I just don’t know how to help my daughter too any advice would be grateful xxx
Hi Confused2022 and welcome to our community.
My experience is with my wife having cancer, though fortunately for now her cancer is stable so finally got to living with rather that dying from cancer.
I know I needed help at one point in our journey and if we look at Looking after someone with cancer it is easy to see how common it is. We often see on here people go "I have to be brave" but that is much easier to write than do.
For your daughter it might help her to find someone to talk to as well. Everyone is welcome on here but it might also help to talk to someone on the helpline 0808 808 0000 it is open 7 days a week from 8am to 8pm.
<<hugs>>
Steve
