Dad teminal after scan

Thoughts are with you jimmy. My mother is in absolute limbo, her partner has weeks to live and after 10 months we have watched his decline. She is already grieving as the inevitable is happening soon, but she cannot properly grieve. All she can do is be there for him. That’s it. To be there. She is buying stuff like curtains that she liked and he didn’t. Changing things in life to prepare for the future after the inevitable. I wish I could help and support her, I have no answers, but again, all I can do is be there. 

 my mums chemo isn’t reducing her cancer now  .. it has also started spreading again in small areas .. she’s now going on less aggressive chemo 2 x a week to give her a bit more time but it’s palliative care .. it should keep it at bay for a bit longer , but it’s no way to live .. it might have side effects also so it’s up to her how long she wants to carry on with it .. . basically without chemo she has 9 months left to live .. but honestly she’s not going to get better ️‍ :( I guess I knew it was going to happen but now it’s reality and I have to learn to live with the fact that mum is dying and I don’t know how long she’ll survive so I feel the grieving process probably started when she was first diagnosed but now I feel selfish for needing to grieve for the limited time I have left with her .. it’s perfectly normal though to feel this way and I’m sorry that your also going through loosing a parent