My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 rectal cancer in early September. Still no treatment as yet but had appointment this week to see if he can have Chemo. We took time to get our heads around the diagnosis before sharing with very close family and friends. Since we told them there's been no contact at all, from anyone. No phone calls or visits to see if we're OK or if we need anything.
There's been absolutely nothing, complete radio silence. I'm so disappointed and upset at the lack of anything. When people have gone through hard times, including a cancer diagnosis, I've been there to help offering practical or emotional support, just whatever they need.That seems to have been forgotten.
I feel so abandoned but then, I think am I asking too much of people because everyone is busy in their lives.
I don't want anything other than the odd message or phone call to say hello, but maybe I'm asking too much.
Has this happened to anyone else? What did you do?
Sorry to be so negative. Thank you for reading xx
Hi, it must be so incredibly difficult to not feel the love and support of your friends and family at this time. I do know that there are many people who still struggle to acknowledge someone else's cancer diagnosis, often because they are scared of saying the wrong thing and causing upset. Ultimately they say nothing and that causes upset too.
Is it possible for you to start to reach out to some of your family and friends, maybe ask for help or just have a chat. I know that makes you vulnerable to them saying no, but perhaps if people know you're ready to talk, they will be happy to support.
I hope the chemo appointment went well this week and that your husband has a treatment plan. I know for me, having that clear was a big positive step. Best wishes
